I Am The Other Woman

EP refugee here...I have been the OW for about 4 years now. He was my OM at first and I got divorced a couple years ago. Never been more in love than with my MM. He is my fantasy come true. W has been suspicious from the get go and has confronted me multiple times. Nothing gets in the way. He is loyal and determined and in love. There are many ups and downs. I have tried to end it over and over and have been unable to walk away from him.

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Empty89 · 31-35

You say he's "loyal".. A man who's cheating on the woman he made vows to, and I read your response about why he doesn't just divorce his wife and be with you, it all sounds like excuses really. His children are adults and he doesn't owe them anything at this point. In any case, why can't he divorce his wife and be with you whilst still providing whatever financial assistance his family are dependant on him for?

Stalked9 · 51-55, F

It sounds like excuses because you don't understand the situation. They financially struggle. W doesn't work. They enable their sons not to be independent (whether or not I agree with this, it's his situation). He has ambivalence. He loves them all and doesn't want to abandon them. There is more to the decision than legal obligation. And yes- he is loyal in that he has been with them for decades and won't just abandon them and leave them homeless. And he is loyal to me. Despite the fact that she has been on to us for years..calls his parents, his employers, drags their adult sons into the drama- he won't abandon me either. Stop being so black and white. Real life involves shades of grey.

Solostance

@Stalked9: Do you know this for certain or just his story? Wasn't he in the military?