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I Am The Other Woman

I love him so much.

I have a love for my husband I have an attachment to him but I have never felt anything for anyone like I do for this guy. When me and my husband were first together was madly in love with him, still doesn't compare to this. The love for my children is all incompassing it's around me it's in everything I do but it's not the same as this either. The love for my family and my friends it's different.

I'm not saying I love him MORE than my children, of course I don't. Can't compare it to that or the love for my family and my siblings .. They are just so different.

I love him as if he is a piece of me that I've been looking for forever. Like he is the one thing I have that shows me a reflection of who I am even the flaws. The things I can't love about myself I love in him it makes me feel like a better person just be known by him just being in his presence I feel better.

I only wish tonight he knows how much I love him and that he feels even a fraction of that for me.
missme
36-40, F
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missme · 36-40, F
I feel like I left out but it's different from how I love my husband as well, partially because I am very codependent on my husband, I have a hard time picturing my life without him and I know I could live and go on with life without this other man, although I would never want to, and sometimes, many times, I want to without my husband.
I'm very attached to him he's my friend he's my partner there is a resentment though in our relationship and it can be very emotionally abusive at times very stressful and difficult and I'm not in love with him at this point.
Love has never felt easier with anyone than it has with this other man I feel naturally connected to him. Passion is out of control, the butterflies have never left from day one and I see him almost every day. Wish with all my heart a marriage could last like that butterflies forever.
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SoFine · 46-50, F
@missme - The butterflies in real life have a short life too. Then know if you married this butterfly feeling man, then this too will be short lived. It's like you date him, but stay married to your co-dependent husband. I would seek some professional help, you have issues that you cover up with sex. These men are tools to you to cover up some insecurity that you have.
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Peachy115 · 61-69, F
@SoFine: Hold on !!!! Stop right there ,funny how you NOWS sniff out the newbies .The butterflies can last a life time ,if you let it . Be kind and exciting to your man ,be relaxed,stressfree , keep wearing that sexy nighty , play sex games .It can all be fine forever .BUT Wives go in a funk and lose that . Men do also and wives stray . But when the attraction and love is gone ,its GONE!!!
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SoFine · 46-50, F
Your lack of self-worth is the pit that needs to be filled. If you have self-love then your children and your life are enough.
Know that in-time this again won't be enough, you will get board and find reasons to dump him.
You are empty from with-in, then you fill it with your OM, then maybe another one after that one.
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Peachy115 · 61-69, F
@SoFine: HA HA !!!No matter what It's my life and as long as I feel it's right IT IS !
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SoFine · 46-50, F
@Peachy115: Then we play on with the cords of your life......
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Peachy115 · 61-69, F
@SoFine: You can say all you want ,doesn't change the fact ,that I have a MM that is in my life forever.You can play all you want lol ,doesn't mean I will play also ..
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SoFine · 46-50, F
This may give you some insight into your co-dependency with your husband ...





“Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not love; it is a form of antilove. It has its genesis in a parental failure to love and it perpetuates the failure. It seeks to receive rather than to give. It nourishes infantilism rather than growth. It works to trap and constrict rather than to liberate. Ultimately it destroys rather than builds relationships, and it destroys rather than builds people.”
― M. Scott Peck,
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missme · 36-40, F
Oh no. I'm a giver not a receiver at all, but we do feed off one another, we are almost fused.

I do love him, I do not need your advice thanks
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SoFine · 46-50, F
@missme: You are so fused yet you bond with another, three way fuse, will fuse out in the combustion of lies ....
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SW-User
Can I ask a question? It may seem rude, but it's something I've noticed from many women I've talked to who are in an extramarital relationship.
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SW-User
@missme: interesting, thank you.
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missme · 36-40, F
I think they're both great in different ways but the chemistry I have with the other man make sex better . My husband would definitely be winning in the size department but it's not something that I consider a plus always.
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Peachy115 · 61-69, F
@missme: It only a feeling we OW know and have . It's hard to explain and I am sure he feels the same otherwise you two wouldn't be together . :) enjoy every minute .
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NOWHealing · F
If you're ready to lose your kids for this man then it must be love, right. There's always a Dday. Remember that. Oh but do you think this guy would be willing to lose his family for you? If he was he would've already and so would've you. Wake Up!
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missme · 36-40, F
Nope, isn't always a DDay, it will probably end one day. I wouldn't lose my kids, but yes everything else I'd be willing to thank ya
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missme · 36-40, F
He's much more willing to leave his wife than I am my husband. Get a life you are digging in the wrong story you don't know what you're even talking about
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Peachy115 · 61-69, F
NowHealing : Stop that "IF HE WANTED YOU<HE WOULD OF LEFT HS WIFE" ...Blah ,blah ,Blah ... You remember The rules now , No Judging and Life is not all black and white ..
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brian29715 · 46-50, M
Wow, great explanation. It is a similar story to my own. Thank you.
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Flutterby
I'm sure he does, some things defy explanation :)
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jcpr63 · 56-60, M
have you been intimate?
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missme · 36-40, F
It's been an almost 5 year physical affair yes. We're both married we got in deep.
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jjoe01
Is he taken?
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missme · 36-40, F
Married yes. So am I
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