I Am The Other Woman
Just a question in hopes to get advice...
Is it ever okay for a betrayed spouse to expose the other womEn involved in a secret relationship with a husband?
Reason why I am asking - my SBXH mistress called me to expose the affair (i already knew and knew that she was not the only one he was involved with) I did not want to hurt her feelings because she seemed to be so proud of competing with me (even though I didn't know that I was in competition with her) and she was sure that he wanted only her. She claimed that my SBXH was playing us against one another and all I could do was laugh and feel pity for her.
I have solid proof that he was involved in three other relationships during the time he was involved with busybody mistress. She was so stuck on me that she couldn't see that she wasn't the only woman that he was lying to.
We are divorcing (final paperwork should be here in less than two weeks) and the day that I kicked his sorry behind out was the first day in years that I felt GREAT!!! All the lies that I read through text messages to all these women and thinking back on our marriage and how much he lied, finally I had peace!!!
The revelation from the busybody other woman was not news to me. I was collecting evidence and making sure my ducks were in a row before I had his ass served with divorce papers. The good thing about it, I had the divorce papers served while he was with mistress #2. LOL... with pictures of him with busybody mistress #1, #2, #3 & #4. The private investigator had all the evidence that I needed to begin a brand new life!
So should I have said something to the woman who exposed the affair? Some of our married friends and family seems to think that I should have and no I never told of his deceit but once everyone found out that we were divorcing, they all knew that it was because he was cheating. He always bragged on being a good father, husband and man to us but the key ingredient that he was missing was it all was a facade. If he was that damn good to me, why in the world would I be divorcing him? His sister knew right away, right along with his father, brother and kids.
My relief is knowing that I have broken the curse that he has tried to put on our family. My children will no longer be afraid of their father when he's in a rage. No more violence and disrespect in my home.
Should I have told her? What do you think?
Is it ever okay for a betrayed spouse to expose the other womEn involved in a secret relationship with a husband?
Reason why I am asking - my SBXH mistress called me to expose the affair (i already knew and knew that she was not the only one he was involved with) I did not want to hurt her feelings because she seemed to be so proud of competing with me (even though I didn't know that I was in competition with her) and she was sure that he wanted only her. She claimed that my SBXH was playing us against one another and all I could do was laugh and feel pity for her.
I have solid proof that he was involved in three other relationships during the time he was involved with busybody mistress. She was so stuck on me that she couldn't see that she wasn't the only woman that he was lying to.
We are divorcing (final paperwork should be here in less than two weeks) and the day that I kicked his sorry behind out was the first day in years that I felt GREAT!!! All the lies that I read through text messages to all these women and thinking back on our marriage and how much he lied, finally I had peace!!!
The revelation from the busybody other woman was not news to me. I was collecting evidence and making sure my ducks were in a row before I had his ass served with divorce papers. The good thing about it, I had the divorce papers served while he was with mistress #2. LOL... with pictures of him with busybody mistress #1, #2, #3 & #4. The private investigator had all the evidence that I needed to begin a brand new life!
So should I have said something to the woman who exposed the affair? Some of our married friends and family seems to think that I should have and no I never told of his deceit but once everyone found out that we were divorcing, they all knew that it was because he was cheating. He always bragged on being a good father, husband and man to us but the key ingredient that he was missing was it all was a facade. If he was that damn good to me, why in the world would I be divorcing him? His sister knew right away, right along with his father, brother and kids.
My relief is knowing that I have broken the curse that he has tried to put on our family. My children will no longer be afraid of their father when he's in a rage. No more violence and disrespect in my home.
Should I have told her? What do you think?
