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I used to be a doormat for my ex 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I was in a [i]very[/i] dark place when we met, and I honestly didn't value my life or myself at all. So when he started showing interest in me, I sort of just switched to autopilot and allowed him to control me.

I just didn't care what happened to me. And believe me he took full advantage of that. He controlled me completely. Physically, mentally, emotionally, financially. He had access to my journal, my computer, phone, Skype, etc. He monitored my conversations, my emails, my diet. He instructed me on how to speak, behave, and think. I agreed to everything he demanded. He had other women too. I didn't mind. I couldn't blame him. We women all knew about each other and I was acquaintances with one of them. It became a sort of sisterly relationship between me and her.

I would have given my entire life to him because I just don't have a lot of options when it comes to relationships. But he began trying to groom a minor (17), and that was a dealbreaker for me. So I ended it.
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DownTheStreet · 51-55, M
DownTheStreet · 51-55, M
[@831314,DearAmbellina2113] well I hope the new one is better!
DearAmbellina2113 · 36-40, F
[@325552,DownTheStreet] he isn't controlling at all. He doesn't give a f what I do lol.
DownTheStreet · 51-55, M
[@831314,DearAmbellina2113] that could be fun lol
PerthSurfer · 46-50, M
I've known many controlling types, my sister had a really bad one but yours sounds awful. I'm glad you were able to get out. Hope you are ok now.
DearAmbellina2113 · 36-40, F
[@557074,PerthSurfer] i miss the guidance tbh.
PerthSurfer · 46-50, M
[@831314,DearAmbellina2113] From what you were saying though it went far beyond guidance into extreme controlling behaviour where he even told you how to speak. It's going to be a huge adjustment for anyone going from that to being in control over their life again. But you definitely did the right thing getting out.
ʜᴜɢs ♡︎♡︎♡︎ ʏᴏᴜʀᴇ ɪɴ ᴀ ɢᴏᴏᴅ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴsʜɪᴘ ɴᴏᴡ, ʏᴇᴀʜ?

Wʜᴀᴛs ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴋɪɴᴅ ᴏғ ʀᴇᴀʟᴛɪᴏɴsʜɪᴘ ᴄᴀʟʟᴇᴅ? ᴄᴏɴᴛʀᴏʟʟɪɴɢ ɢᴜʏ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴍᴜʟᴛɪᴘʟᴇs.... ɪs ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴀ ғᴇᴛɪsʜ
DearAmbellina2113 · 36-40, F
[@682246,lulaluboo] I think he considered himself a Dom.
[@831314,DearAmbellina2113] sᴏᴜɴᴅs ʟɪᴋᴇ ʜᴇ ᴄʀᴏssᴇᴅ sᴏᴍᴇ ʟɪɴᴇs ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ sᴍғʜ ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ɢᴜᴇss sᴏᴍᴇ ᴘᴘʟ ʟɪᴋᴇ ɪᴛ ɪᴅᴋ sᴇᴇᴍs ғᴜᴄᴋᴇᴅ ᴜᴘ ᴀɴᴅ ᴅᴀɴɢᴇʀᴏᴜs ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇ 🙄
DearAmbellina2113 · 36-40, F
[@682246,lulaluboo] yeah
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
Congratulate yourself for recognizing it, and ending it when you needed to.

And you seemed to learn from it.

Not everybody does, so celebrate your strength and resolve.

Nice post.
NaughtyPickle · 56-60, M
Sounds like a real wiener !.... and of course a Sociopath

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