QueenOfZaun · 26-30, F
I have a policy that If I date anyone who has mixed feelings towards me or gives me mixed signals. I get rid of them immediately and stop talking to them. I would rather find someone who I know likes me, rather then wasting my time with someone who doesn’t know what they want. When someone is only interested in playing games with your feelings, the only way to win is to not play. Make the harder but more rewarding choice, get rid of them.
Streamofconsciousness · 31-35, T
@QueenOfZaun That is great advice! I would do this if I believed they didn't know what they wanted. I just don't think that's the case. I think they know what they want but have extremely poor self-esteem and are pushing me away because of that. Like, they seriously don't believe they're worthy of my love and think they're a freak and that I deserve better. They have some extremely... unusual kinks (to put it lightly) and they can't stop hating on themselves for who they are. I might still have to cut all contact, though. It's been almost 9 years of this person being interested in me and showing subtle cues only to go distant. The cues became louder and more blatant over the years, but the cycle hasn't changed even though my response has. I do deserve better than this, though. It's hard to really connect with others :(