Is it worth stayinf for the sake of a disrespectful 11 year old daughter?

All you can do is say to her, "I love you no matter what you say to me". When she talks rudely or badmouth you you say that over and over to her. One day when you are gone. She will remember that. Just stay strong and here's a hug for you.

A'ight im tryin' not to get too far outta my lane, but shouldn't you be able to control the situation, being the adult and all? Like it seems kinda unusual for you and your husband to be fighting in front of her, and then not telling her to go to her room or whatever when she yells at you.

Without knowing the background it’s hard to advise.

Children often show their distress in the most inappropriate way.
It’s their way of demonstrating their anxiety and fear.

The pushing of an adult, especially a parent, especially in a place likely to cause injury, to me, sounds like she desperately needs a parent to reign her in, physically and emotionally, and let her know everything will be alright.

If you as parents are under the same roof and you seem to be implying that your husband is playing you off against him in the ‘best parent stakes’ (our daughter loves me more than she does you) kinda bullsh➖, then it sounds like one or the other of you shouldn’t be living in the same home.

Maybe time to assess what this is about and whether drastic change needs to happen

No. They're too far gone, and if she's willing to try and push you down the stairs, it's time to leave. Maybe when she is older she'll understand what she did was completely wrong, but as they are... No. Let them figure out their own way through life. They don't deserve you.

You are a weak person, your daughter doesn't respect you because she sees you weak and don't have strong opinions and actions.

Work on yourself, make a full change over to yourself, change your habits, your look and body shape, work on your strengths and bury your weaknesses.

Earn your daughter's respect by force otherwise make her feel ignored.

Kudos to you for your patience. If this was me I'd beat the hell outta that brat. But hey, that's wrong. She's your daughter and as basic as this sounds, you are the only mom she will ever have. At this critical period in her life (transitioning into puberty) she definitely needs you around. Staying away for some time can be beneficial for your peace of mind. It might also allow her to reflect on her actions and miss her mom. But leaving her behind is never good for either of you. If you can't tolerate life with that man then consider family counseling. If all else fails then well, divorce isn't the end of the world. But regardless of custody you gotta keep in touch with the children no matter how bad they act. I wish you all the best.

Sounds like she has a lot of anger, and you are her outlet. Hang in there, it must be extremely difficult for you.

Restricted by law or not, whenever I said things like those to my Daddy, I ended up with red swollen face and/or butt cheeks and a bar of soap between my teeth. And I knew it was deserved.
But when your husband doesn't support you or even works against you, you really only can leave.

Poor you 😒

She's like that because of her piece of shit dad. He put all that nonsense in her head you need family counseling and if they don't want to do that then you have to move on

In all honesty it him talking through her. Not cool

Sounds like family counseling may be the way to go.

No way I would tolerate that.

Im sorry! Sounds like your husband is behind it!

I really hope your family isn’t this fucked up.