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Is it worth stayinf for the sake of a disrespectful 11 year old daughter?

My husband and my daughter came back here to get some things. As me and my husband were trying to talk about the situation, my daughter wont stop yelling "Shut up!" "You don't use your brain!"

But my husband smirked in triumph! Looking so proud of what his daughter is saying.

I don't know in which way I can speak to my daughter. I tried being quiet and not make any reactions, but she was yelling abusive words towards me.

After the incident last Wednesday, when my daughter almost push me down the stairs, it's absolutely a lot worse now. It sounds like she has been brainwashed so much. She uttered a lot more negative insults towards me.

I am fighting to stay, but I don't know what has been said to my daughter. She seems not to have any remorse at all.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Without knowing the background it’s hard to advise.

Children often show their distress in the most inappropriate way.
It’s their way of demonstrating their anxiety and fear.

The pushing of an adult, especially a parent, especially in a place likely to cause injury, to me, sounds like she desperately needs a parent to reign her in, physically and emotionally, and let her know everything will be alright.

If you as parents are under the same roof and you seem to be implying that your husband is playing you off against him in the ‘best parent stakes’ (our daughter loves me more than she does you) kinda bullsh➖, then it sounds like one or the other of you shouldn’t be living in the same home.

Maybe time to assess what this is about and whether drastic change needs to happen

tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F

That's why I want to move away. They said I need to fight for my daughter but I feel every agonizing pain of how she treated me. 😭@Picklebobble2

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@tryingtobeOK Then first things first.
If you feel you’re the one that needs to move you need to make the move !
But before you do, get some legal advice about the implications of fighting for custody or visitation rights to your Daughter.

If your child is beginning to show signs of distress that will come out in different ways everywhere !
With her Father; with any Grandparents/family; at school and it can be an endless mess.having to be ‘accountable’ to so many different parties all with your Daughters best interest at heart !

So expect school; family; possibly social workers etc to get in your face as you progress through this.