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I hate my life.

I have been in foster care for 7 years and been in a total of 12 families mostly short term stays. And people only hear about the good sides of it like how foster care gives kids an opertunity to have a family and a stable home. But that’s only the case for the lucky ones if you are unlucky you feel homeless and that you have no where to go. Sadly I’m unlucky and been in some bad homes aswell. I get jealous of people my age and younger when they talk about their families and it makes me angry when people try and say things like it could be worse. I don’t trust people and I’m scared to be myself in case my foster parents don’t like who I am and just get rid of me like the rest have. Sorry to vent but this kept me up last night.
I'm very sorry . People have no right to invalidate you and yes it can be traumatic and unpleasant and I hope more children and adults who have grown up in the system felt safe and encouraged to speak up. You are brave and I hope you heal
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
It’s a very flawed system with a lot of people who upon closer inspection probably shouldn’t be doing it.

Support for both youngsters and families is patchy and like you say, security is nowhere !

You write very eloquently ! Which displays a level of maturity and intellect.
Perhaps it’s a sign you should write a blog or a book on your experiences.
A chance to tell the inside story !
BalmyNites · F
I’m so sorry to hear of your sadness. Any child in the foster care system should never have to feel unhappy & insecure like this. One of the main, overriding criterias with foster care training is to nurture & reinforce safe attachments so that the child, no matter how difficult, unusual or problematic- always feels wanted, safe & loved. I truly hope & pray that you somehow find the refuge, care & affection which should be every child’s natural born right in this world 💜🤗
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
My ex husband was in foster care.......... he was adopted but by a horrible family

Just remember one day it won’t always Be like this and one day you will create your own life and not have to depend on others support. The options are limitless

My heart goes out to you truly
TakenDown232 · 46-50, M
Did you become close to anyone? I mean emotionally, like hugging and cuddling?
Amyreeves · F
@TakenDown232 i turn 14 this month
@Amyreeves happy early birthday
TakenDown232 · 46-50, M
@Amyreeves
You are a kid. It must been hard for you.
Ksmile14 · F
I never hear anything good about foster homes...like even the good ones are just ok. And the bad ones are really bad. I'm sorry you have to go through that :( *hugs*
nedkelly · 61-69, M
@Ksmile14 I was a foster parent, most people never her the good things about foster parents, good stories do not make the news
SubstantialKick · 31-35, M
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that you can end up with a family that loves you and takes good care of you.
kimlovesummer · 18-21, F
You have every right to vent about the hell you've had to endure. You have had to live a life no one would've chosen. I love you because I've gotten to know the wonderful person that you are. You deserve better than the life you have had to live. Hoping that your future will be filled with love from people that really love you. 💋
SW-User
I am so sorry 🤗🤗🤗 I think you're going to eventually have a great life, you're a very smart young lady, you can work hard in school, you can eventually change your life.
Sierra14 · 16-17, F
where do you live now
Amyreeves · F
@Sierra14 yeah I change a few times
Sierra14 · 16-17, F
@Amyreeves yeah I had to change schools like 3 years ago when my Mom got remarried I hated it for a long time
Amyreeves · F
@Sierra14 sorry
Bklynbadboy12 · 31-35, M
Damn I'm so sorry you have to go through this but be stronger you'll be out of the Foster care system soon right. How old are you and how old do you have to be to age out
to vent is good. it helps you to let out the stress and there is nothing wrong with it. just let it all out ;)
1354swrdt · 70-79, M
Really sorry to hear about this. Sadly many young people are in your position in care
prefectly fine to vent. let it out of your heart. it helps a lot
Oldafungi · M
How are you doing now? Sending you hugs and hope it helps.😘
Firmhand59 · 61-69, M
All I can do Amy is give you a hug.
mrh1972 · MVIP
Really sorry to read this
I would adopt you if I could
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
Well you can still achieve great things and with hard work you'll be out and about by the time you're 18-20 living a nice life. What makes us all the same in a sense is that we've all been given our own variation of life, and this life defines our tolerance in regards to what we can deal with. So no matter where in the spectrum your circumstances lie you'll still feel the same kind of joy and pain as anyone else, it only comes from a different source, like edgar poe put it.

That's the reason why there exists children who can make tiktok challenges with a smile on their faces while army missiles rain down over their heads. And why I get anxious when I have to talk to a person.
TJNewton · M
Aww that's so sad i hope things get better for you 🤗🤗🤗

 
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