I'm A Lover Not A Fighter But I'll Fight For What I Love
Would you commit to never talking to a person of the opposite gender (except a therapist or clergy) about your relationship with your spouse since this builds a bond outside of your marriage?
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greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
A good idea in general...But sometimes that kind of total loyalty can lead to prolonging an abusive relationship. Friends can help you get a more realistic perspective on that kind of situation. It is my observation that therapists are more likely to be manipulated by an abusive spouse than your friends are; that's why abusive people usually attempt to socially isolate their victims. Keep your marriage private and don't discuss the intimate side of your marriage with anyone of either gender...unless you suspect abuse. Then...talk to the friend or relative he/she least wants you to talk to.