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I Am Sensitive to Criticism

I've never been able to take it well. To me, it's always like a real insult and it genuinely hurts me. Even constructive, compassionate criticism is something I take the wrong way or make a big deal out of it.

I hope one day I'll be able to deal with it. I'm not holding much hope though.

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SW-User

You need to relax and learn to take what you think that would help you to be a better person, and simply ignore what you know that goes against your essence.
After all you decide what to do.

electropura · 31-35, M

@Calipri: I tried that. It didn't work.

SW-User

@electropura: then better to accept that you can't change it, is it as it is and be prepared to get hurt every time someone else is around because people usually criticize and judge...

electropura · 31-35, M

@Calipri: Well, they just love doing it to me. :( it's not like I have feelings or anything...

SW-User

@electropura: not only you, everyone. And you are not gaining anything taking it too personal. People criticize and also say good things from time to time. It's like it's easier to criticize another than improving oneself.

electropura · 31-35, M

@Calipri: I'm aware of that. But I am not sure I buy into the whole "it's not personal" theory. Criticism is personal, as are compliments.

SW-User

@electropura: not really. It's what others think you should do or be, not what you really need to be. You take it or leave it. After all you decide. That's why you should not take it too personal!
Let's say someone calls you stupid, you go on and believe it. That doesn't make sense! You are as intelligent as anyone, you have to believe it yourself and then what others say won't affect you.
But let's say your clothes are dirty... ok it's difficult to take at first, but all you have to do is forget about it, and wear clean clothes. If they keep talking and talking and criticizing about it, just ignore them. You did what you had to do.

Seems that you have to work on your self esteem, love yourself more to be more confident...
To please yourself, not others, and take what is constructive and what is destructive.

SW-User

@electropura: and I also need to working on mine because some stupid actions of people ( not words so much)-still harm me, but I'm learning hopefully someday I'll be stronger. Good luck for you, you are not alone :)