Loving Someone That Doesn't Love Back
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I Loved Someone That Didn't Love Me

He said he loved me.. We were together for three years. I was so much into the relationship, I gave up my family, friends, hobbies, everything. Now 2 days after our 3 year anniversary he broke up with me. A week before my birthday. It has been horrible, I woke up one day and realised I have nobody to talk to. I kept talking to him, being nice. He is just indifferent, having fun with friends, seeing some other girl while I wallow in self pity. I have had enough sleepless nights and crying on pillow to last me forever. I wish I could move on and be normal, but its so effing difficult.
Bbgv14
31-35, F
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MBAStudent
You deserve much better than him. YOU DESERVE THE BEST. I have been there. I know what it feels like. Enrich your life and love yourself. So many people in this world need you dear. The helpless woman needs you, the hungry kid needs you, the hopeless man on the street needs you. Love yourself. Please. For me. For us. We all love you and care for you. You have immense potential to help others and love others who are not loved. I have been there before...You are not alone. Do good for others and it will help build you. It will help you find happiness and self confidence. Connect yourself to your interests. I have been through the worst of the worst break ups and heartbreaks. I am single today and am happy. I have come to understand that the only thing that helps me feel completely happy is helping others in ways that seek to make a difference. Love those who need love and give to those who need to be given to. A 10 year old boy who does not have access to food, shelter, or the basics need your love and support. If you help someone who needs your help instead of thinking about people who reject you, your life will become fulfilled. Love yourself. You are beautiful and talented. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. Use your talent to help others...you will feel happiness and bliss coming into your life.
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Abhih123
Neither seek nor avoid, take what comes. It is liberty to be affected by nothing; do not merely endure, be unattached. Remember the story of the bull. A mosquito sat long on the horn of a certain bull. Then his conscience troubled him, and he said, "Mr. Bull, I have been sitting here a long time, perhaps I annoy you. I am sorry, I will go away." But the bull replied, "Oh no, not at all! Bring your whole family and live on my horn; what can you do to me?"


~ Swami Vivekananda
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Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
Swami Vivekananda was a swami not without a reason. I dont have what it takes to be unattached, which sucks! But its a really nice thing, I shall try to implement!
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Abhih123
I'm not perfect myself...but I have to digest this truth...the sooner the better...

You who have read the Gitâ see all through the book that the one idea is non-attachment. Remain unattached. The heart's love is due to only One. To whom? To Him who never changeth. Who is that One? It is God. Do not make the mistake of giving the heart to anything that is changing, because that is misery. You may give it to a man; but if he dies, misery is the result. You may give it to a friend, but he may tomorrow become your enemy. If you give it to your husband, he may one day quarrel with you. You may give it to your wife, and she may die the day after tomorrow. Now, this is the way the world is going on. So says Krishna in the Gita: The Lord is the only One who never changes. His love never fails. Wherever we are and whatever we do, He is ever and ever the same merciful, the same loving heart. He never changes, He is never angry, whatever we do. How can God be angry with us? Your babe does many mischievous things: are you angry with that babe? Does not God know what we are going to be? He knows we are all going to be perfect, sooner or later. He has patience, infinite patience. We must love Him, and everyone that lives — only in and through Him. This is the keynote. You must love the wife, but not for the wife's sake. "Never, O Beloved, is the husband loved on account of the husband, but because the Lord is in the husband." The Vedanta philosophy says that even in the love of the husband and wife, although the wife is thinking that she is loving the husband, the real attraction is the Lord, who is present there. He is the only attraction, there is no other; but the wife in most cases does not know that it is so, but ignorantly she is doing the right thing, which is, loving the Lord. Only, when one does it ignorantly, it may bring pain. If one does it knowingly, that is salvation. This is what our scriptures say. Wherever there is love, wherever there is a spark of joy, know that to be a spark of His presence because He is joy, blessedness, and love itself. Without that there cannot be any love.

~ Swami Vivekananda
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Nadooda21
:( I'm sorry, maybe he still loves you but he doesn't appreciate your love, don't try to call him again if you really didn't hurt him or something. Try to be busy, watch movies (not romantic :D ) spend time with your family because they truly love you , call your best friends and hang out to anywhere. Just don't spend time alone :( I feel your pain because that happened with me before,family and friends are very important in this time.
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learningtolovemyself7
He still has feelings for you, believe me, and if you make him feel like you are moving on, he's likely going to realize what he had with you and want it back. It'll be up to you whether to take him back. Focus on filling your life with family and friends and new activities to take your mind off him. It's tough, but try to hang in there!
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CatalinaMagoo
Relationship Insanity is when you no good and well he aint gonna change an you take him back. Waste no more precious time.
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Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
No taking backs.. thats for sure. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.. I just need to stick to that.. Which my head agrees to but my heart protests.
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shotinthedark1923
I know how you feel. Me too. I know I should move on but I'm stuck. I know I deserve better but I want him, I know that this sorrow should pass but it isn't. I know all these things that just aren't so. And so I just go through the motions without hope without anything. I pray and scream out to God for mercy that he would take this burden from me and I wait.
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Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
I do the same.. Praying in the dark, tears streaming.. Not to have mercy but to give me strength. We need to be strong. We are stuck because we are loyal to a fault, we gave so much that we are suddenly alone. But hope will come, sorrow would pass.. pour your heart out. I do that here.. I feel alot better. you would too. Dont worry, stay strong, stay happy.
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LSKxGhost
Pretend he doesn't exist because he hurt you. Find your friends and family and be loved for who you are not by that jerk.
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Abhih123
This is the world - those whom you love best and help most try to cheat you.

~ Swami Vivekananda
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sometimeslonelytoo
I think that your finding it so effing difficult shows that you are normal!
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macstman
You need to get back to your friends and family
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celestialdragon
Hope you are ok now.
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Bbgv14 · 31-35, F
A lot better :) Thank you
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celestialdragon
Yay.
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