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I Wonder If We All Expect Too Much From Relationships

What's "acceptable" when it comes to asking your partner to do things for you?

I have chronic illnesses which make it really hard for me to even function sometimes, and right now we are temporarily living with my fiance's parents, which has completely stressed me out (exacerbating my illnesses). I also have severe allergies, and despite knowing this, my future mother-in-law is a heavy smoker inside the house we all share. It's her house, so I keep my mouth shut, but the smoking has irritated my sinuses to the point where I have nosebleeds every day.

So I often ask my fiance to go to the kitchen and get my meals for me so that I dont have to go in there myself and be around the smoke. Sometimes I feel like he hates doing that for me. I dont know if I'm being too demanding or if he's not being supportive enough.

I dont want to be one of those spoiled nagging wives who hen-pecks her husband so he waits on her hand and foot. But I also don't feel well when I have to be around MIL's smoke.
I'm sorry you have to go through all this. I can relate to that awkwardness with your mom in-law on many levels. Take care and I hope your fiance supports you. Tell him you're thankful for all that he's doing for you. 馃
Elegy46-50
Meet him half way in understanding. He needs to be more empathetic and remember that no one likes to be a gopher.
SW-User
Nothing worse than a smokers house I can relate my mum and her husband use to be heavy smokers and you came out stinking of it and barely able to breath it鈥檚 horrible.. maybe express this with your husband so he understand why you ask him to do this for you.
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@SW-User I have told him. And he sees my nosebleeds daily, he should understand why the smoking bothers me.

 
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