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I Am Not Happy

Struggling to see the point of anything at the moment!!! I don't have anyone to talk to. I'm that person that everyone leans on when they're in need but I don't feel that I can lean on them. I'm so so sick of pretending to be ok!!

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Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M

Well,.Don't pretend, if you aren't happy, acknowledge it and let people around you know. If they barely there for you get.a new group of people to hang out with.
I had been in the same boat. Onlybte people came around is if they needed something, but the minute I need help, there is always some excuse me another as to why they can't return the favor.
I learned early on to do the 3 strikes thing, and then cut people off.
Now I can count my friends on two finger and have plenty bright left over

None that want to receive but not give, or always expecting help but never giving it it I won't have around me.
I have VERY few friends but the friends I do have (all two of them) have been there for me and will continue to do so, as will I for.them
I have learned to appreciate my own company and now enjoy boutsnof solitude more than having company. I'm not.saying I don't needle social interaction, but rather I am very much less dependant on it

Justbychance · M

You can always take a day off? I learned a long time ago that that the same 'everyone' I was always there to help couldn't be there for me, so I relaxed and firstly took a look at my own well-being FIRST rather than others. So ...

Take time out to look after 'you'; actually, in my case it was more the fact that I needed to know myself better rather than knowing others better. It changed everything for the better once I realised that :)

SoulKey

@Justbychance: How do you do that, I mean to look after yourself?

Justbychance · M

@bleacher: [quote]How do you do that, I mean to look after yourself?[/quote]

For me? Firstly, there has to be a time and place where a person stands still and takes stock of his/her situation and yet some people never get to that place for varying reasons; I wouldn't go into any great detail at that, but that's what I discovered and it was a revelation to me.

Being truthful and honest about ourselves is the first step because [i]some[/i] people find themselves in a rut where the last person they give any real thought to on a deeper, almost spiritual level, is themselves. Some hide from themselves, some afraid to look at their true selves and some who don't know where to begin.

The most important issues in my life begin with my well-being above anything else.

yfma53 · 70-79, M

I'm a good listener and don't judge. Be happy to chat anytime. Peace

sunrisehawk · 61-69, M

I do understand what you're saying here and share many of those feelings. I've found that finding someone to talk to is hard. I found one here, and it helped. Doesn't change anything, but it does help getting through things.

Be true to yourself, even in pain, if you help others it is a good thing.

Adamj · 51-55, M

I know how you feel I M that person too. Or they don't have time for your problems or your being silly. Or you never hear from them when things are going great in their lives but let one thing go wrong and they are beating your door down

melbeacher · 56-60, M

I will listen if you need to vent !

MrsNesbitt · 56-60, F

@melbeacher That was a while ago now, not sure I even remember what the problem was. Probably a lot of things all at once. Feeling pretty good these days but thanks for the offer. 😊

melbeacher · 56-60, M

@MrsNesbitt Glad to hear you are feeling better :)

laotzu92 · 70-79, M

@MrsNesbitt Glad to hear that!

bentonlake · 61-69, F

Find some things to do that you like.

SStarfish ·

stop pretending then. spill

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