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I Am Fed Up

I am so fed up to live with someone who debates with every little thing. It’s so exhausting to the point that, I prefer that he is not around here in our home. He doesn’t have a positives vibes, and all he sees about people are all negatives. But, he can’t even see his own flaws. :-(
I definitely hear you. I've been through that myself years ago. It's a very hard situation. I'm sorry you are going through this and having to experience this. I will pray that God will give you the wisdom to know how to handle this.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
The debate today, started with him saying his Auntie died. He told our daughter about that. So, I told my 10 year old girl, “ It’s not actually his Auntie”. “ She’s his Great Auntie.” ( It’s my husband’s grandad’s sister.) So, here in England, we specify that relative as Great Auntie. Though, he calls her just “Auntie”. I was just educating my daughter about it, then he went mental about it. Repeatedly saying that, she’s not his Great Auntie, they call her Auntie. It went into a massive fight because he was going mental.
Pherick · 41-45, M
@tryingtobeOK Did she die recently? Not saying he isn't a debating jerk, but if she just died, he might be abit touchy.
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@tryingtobeOK that’s a bit much on his part
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
FYI- He said to me, he is not close to his Great Auntie. I never met her. I was told that she was a typical posh English Lady.@Pherick
My ex was negative like that. It took a coworker to say, "Lifes to short to be unhappy", and I moved on.
@LadyGrace Thank you. She just said it to a group of us, and she wasnt referring to me, but it hit me like a ton of bricks.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
@TallMtnMedic Definitely. Your life would remain miserable if you refuse to see the positive sides. You end up living your life, being surrounded with negative aspects all the time.
@TallMtnMedic Yes, it was meant for you to hear. I love those moments of inspiration. I'm so happy you listened and did what was right for you. You stayed true to yourself. No one should live in abuse. I'm glad you're happy now.
4meAndyou · F
You need to give your life some very serious thought. I did, and my only real regret is that I did not do it sooner. You are in your thirties, and you could easily make a new life for yourself and have 50 more years of happiness, compared to 50 more years of this same misery.

Think very long and hard.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
I told him to leave. He would leave and come back and just wont stop knocking on the door.@4meAndyou
4meAndyou · F
@tryingtobeOK If you live in the USA contact the police and get a restraining order. If you know it is him at the door, tell him to go away, and if he won't you call the police.
Aidan · 26-30
My roommate is like thatsonetimes - known him 12 years. I ask him to do anything and he complains. I’m like a 24 yr old mother to a 24 year old. He Just wants to party and have fun - highly irresponsible and inconsiderate
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
My husband is the same. By asking a simple question like asking him to get something from the cupboard , he would make side comments and debate about it. Why it’s like that? Why it’s like this? Simple task, and wont shut his mouth . He has to make side comments all the time.@Aidan
Pherick · 41-45, M
That would drive me insane. I mean the debate is good, but there are reasons no one wants to do it 24/7 over the tiniest things!
jfox4anr · 46-50, M
I know someone like that, a female, but ya know ive decided not to waste my breath on her. May that person be removed from your life, I feel your pain.
tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
@jfox4anr I made him leave my home yesterday.
jfox4anr · 46-50, M
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Sounds very exhausting
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
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@Stereoguy Maybe. We would hope so, but some people don't take no for an answer. IF (I doubt he is, but you never know) he is a narcissist, he will not take no for an answer. Once she gets the police involved, only then, maybe, willit hit home. Maybe he doesn't think she means business, since he got to come back that one time. You have to be persistent and [b]consistent. [/b] I like your idea, however, this lady works and she should not have to disrupt her life because of him. He needs to know she means business.
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