I Have Random Thoughts
I don't think that a person has to be toxic in order to be someone who's toxic to argue with.
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SW-User
Very true. Sometimes it's our own perceptions of what the person is saying that turns things in a toxic direction.
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SW-User
@BlueDiver: Lol, I was talking about me, not you. You're reading into it. You said non toxic people, so I assumed you meant people who weren't purposely trying to be scumbags. In THAT case, I'm simply saying it isn't always the other person who makes the arguing toxic. It can be my own reactions or perceptions or misperceptions that turn a discussion from being productive to being a toxic argument.
BlueDiver · 36-40, M
Well, take C---- for example (asshole boss - you know who I'm talking about). He's not toxic to work with, but with his ego he'd be utterly toxic to argue with. In that case it wouldn't have anything to do with my perceptions. That's the kind of thing that I'm talking about with this story. But I mean, you're right, it's a fine line between, on one hand, protecting yourself by not letting people protect their egos by shitting all over you (which is what this story is about) and on the other hand, recognizing when *you're* the one who's blowing things out of proportion because you're being oversensitive (which is what you're talking about).
SW-User
@BlueDiver: Ahhh, I see what you're saying. Yes, I agree.