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I Keep My Circle Small

I do.
I tend to prefer genuine friendships to superficial interactions and I find it hard to maintain those when my circle grows beyond a certain level. Which is why I don't add people easily. I normally take my time, unless there's that spark, that instant connection. Sometimes the connection turns into a beautiful friendship, at others it withers and fades for lack of communication.
I also tend to remove people from my circle if they're either rude or they stop communicating. I don't require daily essays, but if they don't show any interest in maintaining some form of communication, I will simply delete them.
Life is too short and time is too precious to waste on people who are not willing to make an effort to stay in touch.
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
I feel the same way and keep my circle small as well. I occasionally remove people if the friendship fades or no longer holds interest. Not everyone will become a close friend, and I'm perfectly ok with that. I cherish the close friends I have and enjoy meeting others to see if a friendship will evolve.
SimplyK · 61-69, M
Very well stated and couldn't agree with you more....I also try to keep my circle small....I am finding good myself working a lot more this past year and do not have as much time as I used to to socialize....

Good Post D....
SimplyK · 61-69, M
@diablesse: I I totally agree with you....I'll admit, I got careless....lol...but will soon clean house so to speak
diablesse · 56-60, F
Do it sooner rather than later. Those who value your friendship will take notice, those who don't aren't worth keeping.
SimplyK · 61-69, M
@diablesse: doing this as we speak D...😎
AlienZipper · 61-69, M
I'm more selective than I was on EP....I have some on there now but they never communicate with me. If they approach me first I assume they will initiate some sort of dialogue. But I don't think any of them have...so I am about to clean out....
diablesse · 56-60, F
ironically, the ones I have been forging friendships with on here used to be on EP but we never talked there.
AlienZipper · 61-69, M
I haven't found many EP refugees in here yet...
diablesse · 56-60, F
I think most here used to be on EP, but there were so many users on there it was hard to keep track of the ones we never interacted with or came across in either stories or comments, not to mention the ones who are here with new names looking for a fresh start.
Beautifully stated. I've formed some incredible friendships and emotional bonds through online interaction. Some were formed fast and furious and faded over time. Others simmered and have endured. I have cast a wide net in the past in order to find those gems which I don't want to lose. Although sadly, I sometimes do. But those that remain in my heart will have a place forever.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
diablesse · 56-60, F
@FigNewton I have formed some wonderful friendships online, most of which have been enduring for years.
NocturnalTide · 46-50, M
This is what makes connections special: quality over quantity. People who connect with us, whether an instant spark or a gradual warming, are those who care enough to reach out. A quote I adore reads "Only those who care about you can hear you when you're quiet." Such are my most cherished connections.
diablesse · 56-60, F
Those who can hear our silences are indeed the most precious of friends.
I am the same way. I do not want or need a long circle list. I need genuine connectio s wirh people who want to be real and share at least of part of themsel es with me. That is how I know I am safe to share with them. You are easy to share with and beaurifully kind amd aenaitive.
diablesse · 56-60, F
Life is too short and too precious to be wasted with superficial people.
Noble · 56-60, M
Certainly adds for more meaning, merit, and memorable moments.

Quality over quantity, for sure!
TrulyDiscover82 · 41-45, F
Very well said, I'm exactly the same. I don't believe in adding people for the sake of filling up room. I won't be adding people who are any way attach to things I am not hear to see or hear about.
And if you've been on here for more then a day or two and you've still not contributed to the community by saying abit about why your here or what interest you have. Then your far too mysterious for my likeing and I definitely won't be adding you.
This is not a picture website, it's a forum site. Why come on it if you've got no opinions or nothing to say whatsoever.
Facebook is predominately there for pic swapping. But this sort of site is hear to converse, support, lend advice and offer words of wisdom. Inspire one another and hear and respect different view points and hear how people oceans away from you do it there way.
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
There is a risk mine might go into double figures.....

I had about 30 in my circle on Ep....only one said goodbye when it closed.....so yeah circles.....
diablesse · 56-60, F
It takes two for a friendship to happen and grow. I am still in touch with several of my EP friends who never made it to SW.
I love you, dia. I miss you. Drop on by. Poetry is spinning. Love is brimming. And then there's me and you. xxxxx
diablesse · 56-60, F
@PoetryNEmotion I always do. And me and you is a friendship that has withstood the tes test of time and the demise of EP :)
mathsman · 70-79, M
A very sensible approach

And those who are close can be trusted with our "secrets"
Bluesky52 · 61-69, M
same here small is best,both here and facebook.
comfi1 · 61-69, M
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diablesse · 56-60, F
@CoffeeFirst I doubt that spark can be cultivated. It's either there or it isn't and no amount of effort can create it where it does not exist.
AlienZipper · 61-69, M
@CoffeeFirst

Exactly...
AlienZipper · 61-69, M
@diablesse

I think you're right...
Goralski · 51-55, M
D more you know

 
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