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I Feel Guilty

I feel guilty. I just bought a new car!! It's fully loaded and got an amazing deal!! I feel guilty though bc I have a sister who has made some terrible life choices. Out of the 4 siblings I give her money when she needs it and send her clothes and whathaveyou. She has been living in her car off and on for a few years. I live alone in another state and have a spare room. But I honestly do not want her to come and stay w me. I just feel she would never leave and I'd be taking care of her forever...I have told like 5 people I have a new car... I want to share w my family but the guilt is killing me. But I've worked my ass off to get where I am... but I'm tired of helping her when I know she can do more to help herself. I actually gave here my old car... side story; I had a 2000 gave it to her and bought a 2014 but just something just in case I had to help her/family... and didn't get what I wanted... so 3 years on now I bought a 2017 while the 2014 had value and got what I wanted.
She's never paid me back but says she will but she doesn't have a job...my guilt says I should help her but I'm over it... saddened...
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RedRider72 · M
yeah, taking in a family member is a slippery slope..especially one like your sister..and you're right, you will be taking care of her for the rest of your life..it's good that you have helped her, but sometimes the best "love" is to cut them loose and let them go on their own..they need to learn to not be dependent on you..don't be an enabler..tough love..