Going back to an ex

Unless you have an open marriage, an affair is never a good idea. You mentioned the lover is bad for you, so the right thing to do is confess to your husband and pull the plug on the affair. Get help from a counselor or support group, if necessary to help you stay clear of the bad guy.

Do you still want to be with your husband? Seems you need to resolve that question first.

Well it seems like you are not happy with your absent hubby so you might as well keep your side relationship going

Honestly, I believe you know the answer and eventually what the outcome is going to be, without a doubt. I also believe the real issue you are facing is much deeper than this ex lover. Perhaps a self destructive or relationship destructive angle that you cannot come to grips in resolving so looking for that bomb to drop to move things forward. In al respect, I do not know you so am not judging. I have this incredible sixth sense and that’s my first impression. I’m not hearing much remorse or regrets.

But a good vibe and delete his number lol

If you think it would be helpful to get the support of others with similar struggles, you can search for the websites of either Sex Addicts Anonymous or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. They each have phone meetings, web chat meetings, and nowadays, Zoom meetings. They also have live meetings, and you can look for one in your area.

four options.

1-either leave the hubby for the irresistible ex.
2-cut the ex out of your life and be honest with hubby.
3-leave them both and find someone you can't resist and can stay loyal to.
4-leave them both and stay by yourself and evaluate what you want in life.

If your jumping from one relationship to another that quick, it tells me your insecure and your looking for quick fix to solve other problems that's going on with you . There's more underneath that .

How is your relationship with your Husband when he is home?

Tell your husband and move on?

It’s a decision [b]you[/b] have to make. Maybe time to get a divorce and focus on the other fellow. Cheating isn’t the answer.