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Going back to an ex

I had an affair with aomeone a year ago. My hubby is gone 4 months of the year. This guy is not good for me but i can't stop.... i block him, thwn ubblock him. I donr want to see him, but cant resiat texting him. Any suggestions?
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Tell your husband and move on?
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
But a good vibe and delete his number lol
How is your relationship with your Husband when he is home?
Do you still want to be with your husband? Seems you need to resolve that question first.
bugeye · 26-30, F
four options.

1-either leave the hubby for the irresistible ex.
2-cut the ex out of your life and be honest with hubby.
3-leave them both and find someone you can't resist and can stay loyal to.
4-leave them both and stay by yourself and evaluate what you want in life.
Well it seems like you are not happy with your absent hubby so you might as well keep your side relationship going
DrWatson · 61-69, M
If you think it would be helpful to get the support of others with similar struggles, you can search for the websites of either Sex Addicts Anonymous or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. They each have phone meetings, web chat meetings, and nowadays, Zoom meetings. They also have live meetings, and you can look for one in your area.
Oster1 · M
Honestly, I believe you know the answer and eventually what the outcome is going to be, without a doubt. I also believe the real issue you are facing is much deeper than this ex lover. Perhaps a self destructive or relationship destructive angle that you cannot come to grips in resolving so looking for that bomb to drop to move things forward. In al respect, I do not know you so am not judging. I have this incredible sixth sense and that’s my first impression. I’m not hearing much remorse or regrets.
It’s a decision [b]you[/b] have to make. Maybe time to get a divorce and focus on the other fellow. Cheating isn’t the answer.
DrWatson · 61-69, M
[@328496,bijouxbroussard] I read her post to mean the other fellow is not good for her. It sounds as if you read that as a reference to her husband. Maybe the OP can clarify...
[@338282,DrWatson] Ah. Well, that makes the decision a little easier. If she’s smart, she’ll leave the lover alone. But it sounds like she’s not happy with her husband either, or at least the situation with his absence. What I’m sure she [b]doesn’t[/b] want is to end up getting caught cheating, because [b]then[/b] it’s out of her hands.
riseofthemachine · 36-40, M
If your jumping from one relationship to another that quick, it tells me your insecure and your looking for quick fix to solve other problems that's going on with you . There's more underneath that .
Unless you have an open marriage, an affair is never a good idea. You mentioned the lover is bad for you, so the right thing to do is confess to your husband and pull the plug on the affair. Get help from a counselor or support group, if necessary to help you stay clear of the bad guy.

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