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I Am Going Through A Hard Time Trying To Move On

I haven’t said anything about this but I think it’s time. My wife has been having a affair for about 2 years it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever dealt with

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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

As a man, it is very emasculating when you first learn that your life partner wants and has found a better cocksman than you.
Also, most woman do not engage in recreational sex, so when they finally DO allow another cock into the relationship, they associate love with their new boy-toy, and that is another blow to hubby..

I've been there, and suggest that you get on board with her choice(s) and support her by showing her you love her even with her having other lovers.

That is if you love her and want her to be happy and grow.

Remember that you do NOT own her, but are sharing her time and affections in life.

I have lived a POLYANDRY (google it) lifestyle my whole adult life and found that being married to a happy woman (sexually), is the best life as a husband, even if it means sharing your wife with other men.

Don't make her feel bad about she needs and desires. Support and encourage her to find her sexual fulfillment with others, but to also keep you involved with her sexually, so you can share in her new found joy..

You have to decide what kind of man you are made of, and how much you love her and want the very best for her..

You have a basis of experiences together and a lot of trust together to build on. Open and honest communications (yes it hurts) and no secrets about needs and desires and fantasies and dreams...

Build on that and enjoy your wife's metamorphosis and plan on changing your ideas to match hers in the future..

Good luck...

Feel free to message me here for more details and help (from my past experiences with being married to a hotwife..

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VeronicaJane

@polyandrym66 fair enough. For some it might be a secret fantasy come true. But I suspect that the majority of people may find this quite challenging indeed.

Absolutely agree though, that honest communication is the key.

Many may subscribe to keeping it secret as in "what you don't know, won't hurt you".

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@VeronicaJane IMHO, keeping secrets is what kills marriages, more than being brutally honest and open..

VeronicaJane

@polyandrym66 lol, they both can. Especially when tbe secrets are found out...

Transcend · 61-69, M

I think many of us have been through that, its most difficult. Nothing really any one can say or do to help, other than professional counseling.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Transcend If you spit out the poison, it helps. Venting does too.

Joe5663 · 61-69, M

Yes it does one of the hardest things about this is I have no one to talk to about it on a daily basis

Steffanie · 56-60, T

I feel for you mate, it isnt easy, i went through this many years ago, it took about 2 years for me to get over it, to stop seeking answers, to stop beating myself up over it, but eventually i started living for me, and then i was happy. Peoples actions can hurt us man, in which we have no control, my advice would be not to be alone, have a vacation, meet new people. Good luck my heart is with you