I Am Going Through A Hard Time Trying To Move On
I haven’t said anything about this but I think it’s time. My wife has been having a affair for about 2 years it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever dealt with
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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
As a man, it is very emasculating when you first learn that your life partner wants and has found a better cocksman than you.
Also, most woman do not engage in recreational sex, so when they finally DO allow another cock into the relationship, they associate love with their new boy-toy, and that is another blow to hubby..
I've been there, and suggest that you get on board with her choice(s) and support her by showing her you love her even with her having other lovers.
That is if you love her and want her to be happy and grow.
Remember that you do NOT own her, but are sharing her time and affections in life.
I have lived a POLYANDRY (google it) lifestyle my whole adult life and found that being married to a happy woman (sexually), is the best life as a husband, even if it means sharing your wife with other men.
Don't make her feel bad about she needs and desires. Support and encourage her to find her sexual fulfillment with others, but to also keep you involved with her sexually, so you can share in her new found joy..
You have to decide what kind of man you are made of, and how much you love her and want the very best for her..
You have a basis of experiences together and a lot of trust together to build on. Open and honest communications (yes it hurts) and no secrets about needs and desires and fantasies and dreams...
Build on that and enjoy your wife's metamorphosis and plan on changing your ideas to match hers in the future..
Good luck...
Feel free to message me here for more details and help (from my past experiences with being married to a hotwife..
Also, most woman do not engage in recreational sex, so when they finally DO allow another cock into the relationship, they associate love with their new boy-toy, and that is another blow to hubby..
I've been there, and suggest that you get on board with her choice(s) and support her by showing her you love her even with her having other lovers.
That is if you love her and want her to be happy and grow.
Remember that you do NOT own her, but are sharing her time and affections in life.
I have lived a POLYANDRY (google it) lifestyle my whole adult life and found that being married to a happy woman (sexually), is the best life as a husband, even if it means sharing your wife with other men.
Don't make her feel bad about she needs and desires. Support and encourage her to find her sexual fulfillment with others, but to also keep you involved with her sexually, so you can share in her new found joy..
You have to decide what kind of man you are made of, and how much you love her and want the very best for her..
You have a basis of experiences together and a lot of trust together to build on. Open and honest communications (yes it hurts) and no secrets about needs and desires and fantasies and dreams...
Build on that and enjoy your wife's metamorphosis and plan on changing your ideas to match hers in the future..
Good luck...
Feel free to message me here for more details and help (from my past experiences with being married to a hotwife..
SW-User
@polyandrym66 dude wtf.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@SW-User From my life experiences, he needs to stay in the marriage as it morphs and not cut the strings..
Just giving the guy an alternative view point, that has worked for me and others in the past.
It's not for everyone.. It takes a brave man..
Just giving the guy an alternative view point, that has worked for me and others in the past.
It's not for everyone.. It takes a brave man..
@polyandrym66 true, but it is an alternative lifestyle many are suited for, or would consider.
It has worked for you and your wife. I expect many may have tried and failed.
It has worked for you and your wife. I expect many may have tried and failed.
SW-User
@polyandrym66 dude, you're telling him what he needs to do. you're not giving an alternative view point, you were giving orders lol
@polyandrym66 but it takes both. Sometime the cheating spouse no longer wants to be married. Then they are cutting the strings and freeing themselves, leaving you to sort out the mess left behind.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@VeronicaJane Who knows, but it is still better for him to try and stay, do see if he can be happy knowing that she is happy and her not trying to hide things from him..
It's worth a try after being married already and knowing that they love and trust each other..
It's worth a try after being married already and knowing that they love and trust each other..
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@SW-User Not orders, just suggestions from an alternative lifestyle that he might not have been familiar with.. That just might work for him and her..
SW-User
@polyandrym66 these are not phrased as suggestions.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@SW-User Sorry, they were not meant as orders or me barking or yelling.. simply a suggestion..
@polyandrym66 fair enough. For some it might be a secret fantasy come true. But I suspect that the majority of people may find this quite challenging indeed.
Absolutely agree though, that honest communication is the key.
Many may subscribe to keeping it secret as in "what you don't know, won't hurt you".
Absolutely agree though, that honest communication is the key.
Many may subscribe to keeping it secret as in "what you don't know, won't hurt you".
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@VeronicaJane IMHO, keeping secrets is what kills marriages, more than being brutally honest and open..
@polyandrym66 lol, they both can. Especially when tbe secrets are found out...