I Hate My Body

I use to feel this way all the time. I use to hate my body and it felt like a traitor to me. I would starve myself in order to be thin and meet some ideal. Every time I've lost weight, people always compliment me on how good I look.

I don't know what it was, but one day I just decided to love me - warts and all. (No, I don't really have warts, but if I did I would accept them.. maybe remove them though.)

Maybe it is age, maybe it is having a child, or maybe I just decided that I was tired of trying to meet some unrealistic ideal. I like me, and like you, I know I"m pretty intelligent (no brain surgeon), but people often underestimate me. I'm ok with that. If someone takes the time to get to know me, they will know that I"m a genuine, caring person.

I think at some point we have to accept that we can't change what other people think, and we have to accept ourselves as we are and understand that we are beautiful as we are. You are lovely because you are you, and who you are is so much ore than your figure. The media and some people tell us that fat is unattractive. People come in all shapes and sizes, and there are people who find beauty in every shape and size.

I think we all think that when someone loves us or finds us attractive we will find happiness, but neither love, happiness, or relationships work that way. Happiness is a decisions that you make - regardless of the bad things that happen. Love is something you give unconditionally - regardless of what others put out. Yes, if you love freely, you will probably be well loved, but people are generally selfish and hurtful, and sometimes loving people hurts. What you have to decide is to love yourself, to do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled, and to surround yourself with people who love you and treat you well.

Forgive yourself for not being perfect, but understand that there is no such thing as perfect my dear. You are a beautiful human, and you need to love you because you are infinitely worthy of love. Everyone has flaws - internal and external, and once you accept that you are not perfect and no one is, I think you can begin to love you.

Some of those people you speak of do it for a living. It's a job. That means they work on their looks by staying in shape with s daily workout regimen and diet.

Don't be too sure they wouldn't like to pound food and just not care. The solution is pretty simple. You either want it and are willing to work for it, or you're not. Sure every woman will empathize. However, I'd also guess that a fair percentage think they look good and have earned it with sweat and pain.

I'm heading off to karate this evening for 2 1/2 hour belt test. The goal will be got the instructors to sap you of all your energy in the first 15 minutes and then see how you can draw upon what you've been taught when you're beat. Assuming I survive, it's not designed to be pretty.

I'm 54, an ex smoker and beer drinker of thirty years. Payback is a bitch, but the reward is worth ten times what you put in.

I hope that helps with the first step. The rest come more easily. Good luck!

That's a very good question. what is a perfect body anyways? I would say the perfect body will be that one which has the best health and functions properly. The best body which is most attractive would vary greatly from person to person. The standard definition of perfection I guess would be what you see on media today. Women who are paid to be on television because they are very physically fit and people generally are attracted to that and want to emulate that image. I'd suggest a proper diet and physical activity, sounds like the same old rhetoric but a gym membership has helped me keep the pounds off. however I do believe the compliments you receive from your friends are sincere and that you are not ugly as you say you are. I have pretty bad anxiety and I know how it is to put all the blame and all the negativity on oneself. that inner turmoil is just the worst

I don't think a perfect body exists. It's just us excepting the things we can't change...now I'm 44, and I've never been happy with my body, and appearance. I have a pig nose, sleepy eyes, chipmunk cheeks, and two chins! I look like Chris Farley on downers! Lol AND that's just my face...don't get me started on the rest! Skinny arms, a beer belly, and man boobs! Now those last things I can change on my own...just need to find motivation(I say that as I sit here drinking a beer, and watching football). I don't think even if I was rich that I would go all Hollywood, and get plastic surgery...this is the face I was given so I will except that.

A person can be beautiful without being any of the things current fashion attempts to convince us is ideal. Much more important than a flawless complexion or an even skin tone is the person inside. I am attracted to people of substance who are real, not someone who's trying to be what they aren't. A smile, a friendly word and a mind that communicates well without turning the air blue are some of the things that I value. Someone who is interested in me, not my tall, male body, but the little boy who lives inside.

A woman is most attractive when her inside harmonizes with her outward reflection on the outside; basically, you feel better about yourself, people will find you more attractive. We are our own worst, and most disingenuous critics, its better to look at ourselves through the lenses of someone else.....curves for the win, I might add haha

I have always thought that women having insecurities about their looks was funny. To you and all ladies everywhere No matter what you look like there is a man out there who finds you perfect. And if a man or even a mate is not what your looking for, people will find you attractive, So as long as you dont eat babies, lol you all are beautiful and winners

Everyone has flaws and imperfections, but everyone has beautiful qualities as well. The thing is humans have a tendency to notice only the bad in themselves and the good in others (especially the good in places that we hate about ourselves) so the flaws become all we see. I am sure there is a lot to love about you.

Fair enough. I dislike some things about my body too...but at least it gets me from a to b okay. lol.

You are what you think you are. For example, Muhammad Ali use to tell everyone that he was the greatest. Now everyone calls him the greatest.

Its not about being superficial,its the personality that can make ugly or attractive

you are beautiful and God made you beautiful......just wait for that someone who will make you feel that way.

Sexiness is about 75% attitude! You have a sexy mind, so I can't imagine you don't have a sexy body as well!

Insecurity is too common. People need to start loving themselves if they esnt to learn how to others.

I know this is an old post but if that's that's you in your avatar you look quite yummy :)

At my age. Waking up in the morning is perfection. The rest is a bonus. ;o)

No such thing as perfect,Dont be so hard on yourself.

can I please please please look at your picture. please

Thing is your body will be perfect for me right