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I Hate My Body

This is one of the rare moments that I will talk openly about my insecurities. We probably heard a lot of people who've said they hate their body or they are unhappy with how they look. You are probably one of them too. Like you and the others, I dislike my body as well. Uneven skintone, dark underarms, my thighs rubbing with each other when I walk, blackheads on my nose, occassional pimples on my face, back, and even on my butt, stretch marks on my thighs due to weight gain... I can go on forever about the things I hate about my body. I feel ugly. I feel unattractive. Why do some people have it all but I can't? I know I am a smart woman but do people even bother about that? You wouldn't know I am smart if you haven't talked to me but why would you even talk to someone who doesn't look like a model nor a beauty queen. I feel embarassed everytime I shop for clothes because I will always have to buy large and printed ones so my lovehandles and muffin top will be hidden. People have told me I am not fat, that I have the right curves at the right places. This kind of compliment usually boost my self-confidence but when I face the mirror again, I feel disgusted. I want a perfect body, is that too much to ask? What is even the meaning of perfect body, anyway? Is it about having no flaws or is it having flaws but learning how to accept them? How about you, what is your idea of perfection?

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moonchild0315

I use to feel this way all the time. I use to hate my body and it felt like a traitor to me. I would starve myself in order to be thin and meet some ideal. Every time I've lost weight, people always compliment me on how good I look.

I don't know what it was, but one day I just decided to love me - warts and all. (No, I don't really have warts, but if I did I would accept them.. maybe remove them though.)

Maybe it is age, maybe it is having a child, or maybe I just decided that I was tired of trying to meet some unrealistic ideal. I like me, and like you, I know I"m pretty intelligent (no brain surgeon), but people often underestimate me. I'm ok with that. If someone takes the time to get to know me, they will know that I"m a genuine, caring person.

I think at some point we have to accept that we can't change what other people think, and we have to accept ourselves as we are and understand that we are beautiful as we are. You are lovely because you are you, and who you are is so much ore than your figure. The media and some people tell us that fat is unattractive. People come in all shapes and sizes, and there are people who find beauty in every shape and size.

I think we all think that when someone loves us or finds us attractive we will find happiness, but neither love, happiness, or relationships work that way. Happiness is a decisions that you make - regardless of the bad things that happen. Love is something you give unconditionally - regardless of what others put out. Yes, if you love freely, you will probably be well loved, but people are generally selfish and hurtful, and sometimes loving people hurts. What you have to decide is to love yourself, to do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled, and to surround yourself with people who love you and treat you well.

Forgive yourself for not being perfect, but understand that there is no such thing as perfect my dear. You are a beautiful human, and you need to love you because you are infinitely worthy of love. Everyone has flaws - internal and external, and once you accept that you are not perfect and no one is, I think you can begin to love you.