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I Am Lonley

My ex husband of 15 years left our 4 kids and me 3 years ago. I have a pain illness that means I have to use a walking stick when I'm out. He spent years knocking my confidence telling me I was a "old ugly cripple who no one would ever want". Since then I've found it hard not to feel that he is/Was right. I feel like my illness defines me and that it will be the only thing people see. So I tend to lock myself away which compounds the feelings of isolation and loneliness.

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KaiserSolze · 46-50, F

When I was 18, slim and sexy I had the thought that no one would ever want me. I said it out loud to a friend who laughed at me. It was a ridiculous thought.

Now although you are older and have 4 children and a walking stick it's still as ridiculous. It's ridiculous because people with children and sticks still meet people and fall in love.

Because I had such a skewed belief when young and I really believed it until the girl just started laughing at me I challenge as many beliefs that I have as possible because alot of beliefs we have are wrong.

So I know your belief is wrong and laughable. And I know when you start to believe something different then different things will happen in your life.

Blessings 💜

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Solitair · 51-55, F

@KaiserSolze thank you. I know you are right and that I need to change my mind set. I'm going to try very hard to take on board everyone's kind words and great advice and do my best to change the way I view myself and my illness. To move forward instead of staying in the past. I really appreciate your advice. Thanks.