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I Have Borderline Personality Disorder

I have just the "bestest friend" in the whole world. Now that she's engaged, she doesn't seem to care. I needed her over here to help hook up my tv and internet (had to take everything apart because of having to box it up for bed bugs). I didn't think I was asking for much, and I even texted her earlier saying to call before she comes over. Thanks. Now I think my router blew, I've already used 2G of my 5G limit, and the month doesn't end until the 13th. I knew I would lose her. She's walking into a ready-made family. She has other people now. She doesn't need me. Nobody needs me. Why bother?

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greenmountaingal · 80-89, F

It is a big mistake for brides to do this, but it happens all the time. She will need you again. She just hasn't figured it out yet. She believes she is about to have a magic wand waved over her life and will never ever need anyone but her new husband and his world. Your best bet is to back off and be patient. Weddings have a way of causing a sort of temporary bridal madness. Concentrate on getting her a thoughtful wedding present. Assume you are still friends and she'll be in touch when she is ready.

dominoesgirl · 36-40, F

@greenmountaingal She isn't even having a wedding. It will be during or right after church on a Sunday morning. That's all she wants. I was perfectly fine with planning it for her (she said that she was fine with me and her other friend planning it and her just showing up). I don't know. I mean, I know our relationship will be different, but it almost feels like I'm on the backburner.

greenmountaingal · 80-89, F

@dominoesgirl Only for now. If she doesn't want a wedding, don't fuss. It will be easier for all of you. Most of the time, friendships will revive after a hiatus as she gets used to her new life.

dominoesgirl · 36-40, F

@greenmountaingal I hope you're right. My birthday is this weekend, and I don't know if we're going to even do anything. We usually go out to dinner or something.