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I am guessing not.

As you may or may not know I am creeping up on 50 fast and I never hide that fact.

Recently I met a woman who is 39 and we talked for awhile and then feelings started to grow on both sides, and before I got too attached I made sure that the age gap wasn't an issue. She assured me that it wasn't,case I keep myself in good shape and am healthy and age is just a number.

We got to the point of looking for a place to live together, both of us sharing opinions on what we wanted and luckily we liked the same things.

At the 11th all of a sudden my age became a huge issue for her and she wanted time to think about it. Which I understand and respect. She wanted sometime apart to see if this is right. So with my heart broken I again said I respect her wishes and I will leave her alone until she can figure things out.

Now here is the confusing part, she says she wants space but will call or text on a daily basis and if I talked about us she gets mad.

Am I missing something?
Miram · 31-35, F
yes, she is hoeing around.

The serious answer is that she wants the emotional kick , validation and everything you can give her without giving you anything in return.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Miram The sad thing is that I think you are right.
Miram · 31-35, F
@VanBCguy I am always right. There is no doubt about it.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Miram haha, good to know.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
She needs to be in or out. My husband is 10 1/2 years older. Now that were older I do see certain good things about it as far as senior discounts so sell her on that but do not mention a 55+ older community 😂
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple it has to been long at all.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@VanBCguy try to enjoy each other rather than making a life commitment so soon.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple That is great advice.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
If I had to guess.. and it is a guess, I would say your age is an excuse. For whatever reason, she is drifting off...😷
quinnlynn · 46-50, F
@whowasthatmaskedman That's my guess too.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@quinnlynn In my experience, if a woman has really decided on her man, there is not a lot he can do about it short of violence or leaving..😷
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
My girlfriend is 12 years younger than me. I’ve been waiting for the proverbial shoe to drop for a while. She’s never minded the age difference but who knows. 🤷‍♀️
SW-User
It's definitely not about your age. I hate saying this but it's possible she met someone else that she's attracted to and wants to see if it might lead anywhere without cutting you loose yet. You could be her back up plan.

Or, she panicked about moving in together and isn't ready.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@SW-User you are probably right on one of those.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@SW-User Well I may have to throw it out there and ask and probably end it for good, at least that way I will know.

 
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