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I am guessing not.

As you may or may not know I am creeping up on 50 fast and I never hide that fact.

Recently I met a woman who is 39 and we talked for awhile and then feelings started to grow on both sides, and before I got too attached I made sure that the age gap wasn't an issue. She assured me that it wasn't,case I keep myself in good shape and am healthy and age is just a number.

We got to the point of looking for a place to live together, both of us sharing opinions on what we wanted and luckily we liked the same things.

At the 11th all of a sudden my age became a huge issue for her and she wanted time to think about it. Which I understand and respect. She wanted sometime apart to see if this is right. So with my heart broken I again said I respect her wishes and I will leave her alone until she can figure things out.

Now here is the confusing part, she says she wants space but will call or text on a daily basis and if I talked about us she gets mad.

Am I missing something?
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Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
She needs to be in or out. My husband is 10 1/2 years older. Now that were older I do see certain good things about it as far as senior discounts so sell her on that but do not mention a 55+ older community 😂
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple she is fence sitting which is frustrating.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
If it’s vinyl she could be there a while. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.@VanBCguy
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@Keepitsimple Also don’t say you’re getting old and all that stuff. It gets old. My reply is it’s not my problem, figure it out.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple I never hid my age and I never bring it up. It's just that white elephant in the room.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@VanBCguy How long have you been together? I never told my husband but a few months into the relationship I did think about it.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple 5 months.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@VanBCguy Yeah, She’s trying to figure out whether she’s all in or not. Moving in together kinda would seal the deal.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple I think it would but she is avoiding the topic. So maybe I walk away and if the feelings are there then she will come back.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@VanBCguy 5 months isn’t a long time so maybe continue date but not exclusively for your sake at least in case she bails.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple it has to been long at all.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@VanBCguy try to enjoy each other rather than making a life commitment so soon.
VanBCguy · 51-55, M
@Keepitsimple That is great advice.