I Hate Men Who Abuse Women

Thank you for your comment.

I have learned a lot since,about narcissists, how to recognise them and how they operate.

I know it can be quite difficult mostly when the person you are trying to leave threatens to harm you or threatens suicide,both these tactics were used against me.Somehow circumstances allowed me to finally get away.I had a job,earned more than he did and thanks God I did not have young children.I did not have a family to turn to,they would have been the last ones could have turned to for help! .I suspect your husband is using emotional blackmail to keep you where he wants you and constantly undermines your self esteem to literally "cut you legs from under you" this is how that kind of abusers operates. Is there a telephone number for domestic abuse victims you could access so as to talk to someone in your area who could give you some support and advise on how to stage your get away,there are places abused spouses can go to,refuges where husbands cannot reach them so they can recoup some of their confidence and self esteem while working towards a more permanent get away.But you cannot tell anyone where you are,so your husband has no way of tracing you. You can phone your children and friends so as to tell them you are OK,but sadly you cannot reveal your location.You could talk to your GP,what you tell him is in confidence,he might know of a place you can access or an organisation that can help you.You cannot go on like this.Now your life is not your own.You deserve a life!.Take care.

Berangere\'s is very good advice. When you\'ve found a shelter you truly do need to cut ties to be safe. There are many cases where women don\'t understand the importance of doing this and found it very costly; for instance, a lady whose husband found her when she visited her regular hair dresser and it cost her her life. There are safe places, but you must pay attention to rules and advice.

She certainly did the right thing,why put up with all that nonsense ? I did for seven years until I hated him so much that I had to get out before I did something I would regret.

To tell you the truth, he was not even good in bed!

well I don\'t like to brag but......hahaha x

Lets leave it at that.

I agree! I got a distorted view of love due to an abusive background.

Me to!

Thank you for your support.

And I could have added,he threatens suicide when you mention leaving him.

It can go both ways.