I Hate Men Who Abuse Women

A Man Does Not Love You When......... He hits you and is verbally abusive.
He tries to control every move you make.
He resents you for having a better job and education.
He is jealous of your friends and family and tries to stop you seeing them.
He crictisizes what is dearest to your heart.
He makes fun of your fears.
He keeps putting you down and pointing out your weaknesses.
Your money is his money,
and he resents you buying yourself a treat .
He backs up the people who are rude or hostile towards you.
you find out he has been running you down behind your back.
He constantly lies to you.
He fails to comfort you when you are distraught or in pain,
and tells you to stop moaning!
He denies you your deepest need,like wanting to be a mother,and tries to convince you that you would not want children either.

No matter how often he tells you "he loves you" if any of these signs above apply,
GET OUT AND GET OUT FAST!

I did not get out fast enough!

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Gayle50

I'm trying to get out of a controlling marriage. Lots of verbal abuse. Im so scared. No money and no job nono where toyou go. He knows this and it makes things worse. I cry daily and my self esteem is non existing. Kids grown thank goodness, but my kids suffered when they were small. I feel so guilty that I know stayed 36 in years in this hell. Thanks for reading.

berangere · 80-89, F

I know it can be quite difficult mostly when the person you are trying to leave threatens to harm you or threatens suicide,both these tactics were used against me.Somehow circumstances allowed me to finally get away.I had a job,earned more than he did and thanks God I did not have young children.I did not have a family to turn to,they would have been the last ones could have turned to for help! .I suspect your husband is using emotional blackmail to keep you where he wants you and constantly undermines your self esteem to literally "cut you legs from under you" this is how that kind of abusers operates. Is there a telephone number for domestic abuse victims you could access so as to talk to someone in your area who could give you some support and advise on how to stage your get away,there are places abused spouses can go to,refuges where husbands cannot reach them so they can recoup some of their confidence and self esteem while working towards a more permanent get away.But you cannot tell anyone where you are,so your husband has no way of tracing you. You can phone your children and friends so as to tell them you are OK,but sadly you cannot reveal your location.You could talk to your GP,what you tell him is in confidence,he might know of a place you can access or an organisation that can help you.You cannot go on like this.Now your life is not your own.You deserve a life!.Take care.

nelladell

Berangere\'s is very good advice. When you\'ve found a shelter you truly do need to cut ties to be safe. There are many cases where women don\'t understand the importance of doing this and found it very costly; for instance, a lady whose husband found her when she visited her regular hair dresser and it cost her her life. There are safe places, but you must pay attention to rules and advice.