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Travelling with social anxiety

My social anxiety is pretty debilitating. I hate small talk, going to shops and I basically keep social interaction to a minimum around people I don't know although it depends on my mood, lately I've became worse. I can get by living independently but it seems way to uncomfortable, no normal person would stress about having to go to the till at a supermarket and try avoid it and use self checkout. I realised it's a lot easier to avoid these situations in the UK, people aren't overtly friendly, in fact if you tried to make small talk with a stranger they might look at you weirdly or be surprised as it's not something that happens frequently and people in big cities in UK keep themselves to themselves. I do need to venture out of my comfort zone though.

Seems like I'd struggle travelling, I really want to go US and Canada but I know I just couldn't deal with people, they seem a lot more open and social. I do wish I'd get over it, I like socialising at heart just get scared shitless of people and judgment. When I drink I go into complete extrovert mode, becomes hard for me to stay quiet and everyone is surprised how different i act
QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
People aren't going to bother you for your life story in US and Canada, especially in cities. It's always easy to see when someone wants to be left alone. I wouldn't stress.
I understand that completely, sometimes I drive to the store and if the parking lot is too full I go back home. Other times it doesn't seem to bother me. I stress out over more things then I should and I think that's part of the reason. I use to drink and I could go anywhere and do anything and talk a person's head off, and like you when I wasn't drinking I couldn't talk to myself lol. I've been stopped now for 10 or better and it's my state of mind that controls me talking. I do if I have to, it's not easy to make friends when your a listener and not a talker. I will admit it's gotten better though the yrs, here in the south just about everyone is a talker if they know you or not or it seems like it. Don't let those things hold you back from reaching your dreams, tell your doctor about and he might be able to find something to help you until you get the hang of it on your own
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JoMalho · 26-30, M
@RippinKlouds I've already done that. I got addicted to a mix of clonazepam/diazepam and a bunch of benzo's, self medicating though. I think I'm of a addictive disposition with drugs and alcohol, don't know when to stop. I stay away from anxiety benzo drugs for that reason but I agree they work great if you stick to the doses but long term the physical addiction can be nasty, you have to be tapered off slowly by a doctor or you can risk having a seizure. Also find they make me not care too much about things but I guess I abused them heavily
@JoMalho maybe try Adderall or something of that sort just be careful using it as well
Dan193 · 31-35, M
That was me when I was younger. Now I'm not super open either, but in the past, like around your age, when I could drink in public, I'd drink and be noticeably more extroverted and my friends would let me know. However sometimes when I'd be more quiet in a social setting, they'd be like "get Dan some drinks!" or "Dan, why are you so quiet? get a drink or something" and it felt a little bit insulting ...like they'd rather have me around while drunk, than while I'm me. So that's partly the reason why I stopped drinking.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@RippinKlouds What exactly? being more open when being drunk?
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Dan193 · 31-35, M
@RippinKlouds I guess that's how our brains work. Even if you're suppose to know everything, you couldn't really know it without experiencing it.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
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