Why does rejection always send me into this
Total state of depression and hopelessness and anger all at same time.. It can overwhelm some times. I mean it's so intense it's unbearable and I don't even try to feel this way.
46-50, F
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TwiddlerofThumbs · F
You have your self worth wrapped up in how others value you?
I can't pretend to know. Well, I could actually, but where is the fun in being that person?
I can be the same way. I am the same way. but not with everything or everyone. I have very specific areas that if I am not accepted or do well in, I totally shut down and have a hard time coming back out of the hole I put myself into.
I can't pretend to know. Well, I could actually, but where is the fun in being that person?
I can be the same way. I am the same way. but not with everything or everyone. I have very specific areas that if I am not accepted or do well in, I totally shut down and have a hard time coming back out of the hole I put myself into.
VolpeTredici · 31-35, M
@TwiddlerofThumbs this
Mamapolo2016 · F
If others create our sense of self-worth, they can take it away. Think of child stars, out-dated music stars, aging actors and actresses who fall apart when the spotlight moves on.
It's almost impossible to completely discard needing approval, but if we rate ourselves ONLY on the measures of others, rejection or simply lack of approval can be devastating. I speak from experience.
This seems a silly exercise, but try it. Sit down with pen and paper and write down your strengths and talents, things you know you are good at, what makes you a friend worth having. Why you are a valuable asset to your employer. Look in the mirror every single morning and tell yourself good things about you. Work at it,
[youtube=https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zNtPVgblzWY]
It's almost impossible to completely discard needing approval, but if we rate ourselves ONLY on the measures of others, rejection or simply lack of approval can be devastating. I speak from experience.
This seems a silly exercise, but try it. Sit down with pen and paper and write down your strengths and talents, things you know you are good at, what makes you a friend worth having. Why you are a valuable asset to your employer. Look in the mirror every single morning and tell yourself good things about you. Work at it,
[youtube=https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zNtPVgblzWY]