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Have you ever had a toxic ex?

This is more of a rant than a question because I need to get my anger, frustration and hurt out somehow, and cause I listened to good 4 u by Olivia Rodrigo and the lyrics are very relatable.

A couple of months ago, I started dating this guy. It was great, we got along perfectly. However we started having issues very early on, like the fact that he'd check out other girls, admitted that he missed some parts of his relationship with his ex and he felt like we didn't connect the same way him and her did. He also called me immature constantly cause I'd laugh at things he didn't necessarily laugh at. But, um, honey, you're just as immature as I am.

He made me feel less than enough, and with my already low self esteem, he just pushed it down lower. He made me feel very pressured into doing things as well, and just treated me terribly. Like made comments that upset me and when I get upset, he doesn't take my hurt seriously.

Anyway, we only dated for 2 weeks. Pathetic, I know. Then he found a new girl a few weeks later, and I sent him a message which was supposed to come off as friendly and he told me not to text him like he's single cause she'll get mad. Um, come on??? If I was so worried about you checking out other girls, I would never want to make another girl feel that way. It sucks. I also asked him not to end our friendship just cause he has a girlfriend now, and he said he wouldn't...but guess who I haven't heard from in about 2 weeks now?

I'm over him, I know I am. He hurt me so much. But I miss him. Stupidly. I miss his friendship, and I miss laughing with him. I don't know what to do. He made me feel horrible, but he was there for me when no one else was. But now when I need him most, he's not there. I'm here hurting, at a complete loss, and he hasn't got a care in the world for how much he hurt me.

But good for him, right?! Glad he's happy and I'm here...
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DeluxedEdition · 22-25, F
complete loss of a bag of trash. that man baby is abusive and i feel sorry for whoever ends up with him
Leave ...move on
SarahTheHooker · 22-25, F
Awwwwww......what a rubbish guy! Good getting rid, babe! Luckily it was just after a few weeks...could you imagine how you would feel after 6 months ?!? Think you're pissed off now, I'd daren't think about after then!

Luckily, I have had just 1 boyfriend....no previous ones....and we're pretty good together....

Sarah 💋
shishikura · 22-25, M
He’s manipulative and didn’t truly care about you. When guys do things like put you down, and lower your self esteem, it’s to manipulate you. If he lowers your self esteem, you’re gonna become uncomfortable around everyone but him because you’re already close with him. It’s a tactic manipulative people use in order to make you more attached and then you’ll do anything for that person no matter how uncomfortable it makes you because you don’t want to lose them, especially if you have no one else. DONT FALL FOR THIS. Breakups are always hard but with people like that, there’s a lot more good that came out of it than you realize
JustcallmeNameless · 31-35, F
I'm sorry he was such a jerk. At least you found out sooner than later. I spent almost 3 years waiting for something that was never gonna happen.
Carazaa · F
He sounds like a total jerk, there are nice people out there so just get to know them and you will forget him. Maybe get some counseling too to figure out why you like neglectful guys. Were you neglected as a child or abandoned?
Khenpal1 · 56-60, M
too much drama , you became needy and that's not friendship
I am glad that you moved on. You need to wait before dating anyone. Know the guy, be a friend first, test his patience. After few years you will trust him then ask him out.
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Relatable
I'm sorry for the hurt you're experiencing to be honest with you Its a pain I was a long time ago perhaps familiar with myself so it's a bit of a reminder of former sentiments but indeed like below move along.

The truth of the matter is that men being able to get away with so much has mislead many of us about our current market value into overinflating it and women to underestimate how badly they're acutally wanted the situation is fucking twisted because honestly women really have all the power but they don't feel like they have the right to actually use it.

and meanwhile men really have NONE but feel entitled to pretend like it's all in our hands.

 
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