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What should someone do if they're in love with a friend's significant other?

My friend told me he's in love with one of his friend's girlfriends and he feels really guilty about it. He doesn't intend to act on it but he feels like he's a bad friend just for having feelings for her.
NativeOregonian · 51-55
My oldest brother took off with our other brother's girlfriend and knocked her up, they got a Vegas wedding, six months later she left him for another guy.
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@NativeOregonian that's my friend refuses to try anything, he doesn't wanna be THAT.
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@LyricalOne 😂 Good one 😁
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Whoaaa.....that’s some serious family jewels that brother has. 😟@NativeOregonian
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Feelings in and of themselves are not good or bad. It's not against the law to feel like hitting your boss; it's against the law to hit him or her. Your friend would be much better off not allowing himself to label his attraction "bad" and putting his focus on not acting on his feelings. The way he needs to do this is to make it his priority to [i]never[/i] be alone with her. It would be best if he limited or avoided all situations that encourage flirting or losing one's inhibitions, such as drinking a lot of alcohol (a lot means whatever amount tends to lower his inhibitions). He needs to carefully monitor his actions, not his feelings; if he is a good friend and an honorable person, his feelings should be strong motivation for that monitoring, in other words, the stronger the feelings, the more careful the monitoring. And, needless to say, none of this should be discussed with her or anyone who knows her or could possibly know her or ever talk to her.
BerryTheBoo · 26-30, F
They should shut up about it, move on, and try to think and act like adults.
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@BerryTheBoo I'm not sure I get how falling for someone is not acting like an adult.
BerryTheBoo · 26-30, F
Teenagers fall in love easily and struggle to come out of it. An adult should be able to control his/her emotions. You can "fall", everybody does, but the logical part of your mind would analyze the circumstances and regulate your emotions if you're not thinking like a teenager.
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@BerryTheBoo Well, he is only 18
breezyboo · 31-35
Keep their mouth 🤐
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@breezyboo For shizzle.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Write a rock song
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@HoraceGreenley Jessie is a friend.
ForeverGrowingOld · 22-25, F
Blare "Jesse's Girl" outside their window until they get the hint
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@ForeverGrowingOld but why would he want her to get the hint? Lol
xixgun · M
Go in the opposite direction
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
FuCKz Her anDZ GetZ ITz Over witHz
If he haZ No MOnEYZ or prosectz WimENZ wonTz Be intertEsteDz anywayZ
KA9ha · 31-35, M
he is LYING .... dont trust him...however , this is not love its puppy attraction for her swell features
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Zonuss · 41-45, M
Then he needs to accept the fact that that is not his girlfriend. Its the adult thing to do. 🙂
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
@Zonuss He found some hottie to distract himself with.

 
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