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LyricalOne · F
Karmalives · 51-55, M
@LyricalOne lmfao... Soooooo True 😁🤣
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
@LyricalOne 😂😂
I think people marry very quickly in relationships even more so now it seems. People marry very young and lack experience when it comes to life and have no clue what they truly want at the time, and it’s all really just impulse and based on feelings in the moment. I think people have an unrealistic idea of love and marriage, and they expect it to be like a fairytale and many people fail to realize it’s not. People also marry based on feelings/emotions alone they don’t marry for reasons more than that, and I think that’s what leads to a failed marriage. I feel like you need more than love and feelings when finding a compatible partner and making it work long term.
Carazaa · F
1. Because people sleep around and get pregnant and marry prematurely.
2. People marry the wrong person on the rebound from another relationship and they don't really love their mate.
3. People have been neglected or abused in their childhood and don't know how to love. They have poor relationships. Married people need to spend time together every day, and put the other person ahead of themselves. And communicate effectively, and not criticize, and forgive, and not withhold intimacy.
4. Because women work and can make their own living and don't need to stay in an abusive situation, before many women stayed because they had to.
5. Because some people don't care about commitment, or Gods rules. They are lazy and want to quit when life gets hard.
6. Because the church is ok with it, which is ungodly.
7. Because parents coddle their own children and don't hold their children accountable to love their mates, but sometimes encourage divorce.
8. Because parents don't role model good marriages so kids grow up not having a clue how to love.
9 Because Parents didn't teach tolerance and responsibility to their kids but spoiled them so the kids grow up lazy and selfish.
10. Because we are selfish society and do what we want and not what God wants.
2. People marry the wrong person on the rebound from another relationship and they don't really love their mate.
3. People have been neglected or abused in their childhood and don't know how to love. They have poor relationships. Married people need to spend time together every day, and put the other person ahead of themselves. And communicate effectively, and not criticize, and forgive, and not withhold intimacy.
4. Because women work and can make their own living and don't need to stay in an abusive situation, before many women stayed because they had to.
5. Because some people don't care about commitment, or Gods rules. They are lazy and want to quit when life gets hard.
6. Because the church is ok with it, which is ungodly.
7. Because parents coddle their own children and don't hold their children accountable to love their mates, but sometimes encourage divorce.
8. Because parents don't role model good marriages so kids grow up not having a clue how to love.
9 Because Parents didn't teach tolerance and responsibility to their kids but spoiled them so the kids grow up lazy and selfish.
10. Because we are selfish society and do what we want and not what God wants.
KimberleyAnne · F
bijouxbroussard · F
@CereBellum Only because it means women aren’t trapped in unhappy abusive marriages—as they were [b]before[/b] “women’s lib”. And as they still are in countries without it—where women are still considered “property”.
@bijouxbroussard This is indeed very true unfortunately. You think the divorce rates would be lower now in the USA, due to the fact that the only people who come out ahead are their attorneys.
UckfayOuyayOotay · 46-50, M
Too many marriages. My divorce was simple because we were too different and didn't date long enough to realize it first. Also we were too young (23/20) and she also completely changed after the marriage...went from a smoking/drinking/weed toking party girl to a straight laced vegan mormon girl, and all without any warning. At that point we were doomed to fail.
UckfayOuyayOotay · 46-50, M
@MasterLee I feel like you feel like you're making a point.
Northwest · M
Because people get married too young, and don't realize that they have yet to figure out who they are, and what they want in life. This leads to them looking outside their marriage, and eventually divorce. This is for otherwise "healthy" relationship.
For toxic relationships, the reason is obvious.
For toxic relationships, the reason is obvious.
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Salix75 · 46-50, F
@Carazaa I'm not saying monogamy can't work, but the expectations people bring to marriage these days is unrealistic.
And I'm sure many long-time couples are happy (but I've never read any studies proving them to be the happiest) just as many aren't hapoy, but stuck it out for whatever reasons (the kids, religion, no other alternatives, etc)
And I'm sure many long-time couples are happy (but I've never read any studies proving them to be the happiest) just as many aren't hapoy, but stuck it out for whatever reasons (the kids, religion, no other alternatives, etc)
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
I don't think it's that high. I think people stayed in bad marriages once upon a time because they didn't have good options for getting out of them, so the rate of people remaining married was artificially increased. The introduction of no-fault divorce allowed people to look at their situation and do something about it.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@DunningKruger I've done my research and not easily misled by the myriad ways that statistics are analyzed.
75%
75%
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@SteelHands Please show your work. I've never seen any place list statistics that high.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@DunningKruger I'll refrain from the argument. I'll simply let you know what I didn't use to arrive at my figures.
I didn't state the ratio of individuals marrying to the number getting divorces.
I also didn't count as one divorced people that have been divorced multiple times and ignore the multiple divorce number.
I also didn't take a survey of people to arrive at a number that could include people now married as not divorced if they had been divorced in the past.
Didn't use only females or only males since that too introduced data that was inconsistent.
Or by age group. Although the divorce rate for 50 up has now reached ridiculously high numbers.
Nor did I shrink or enlarge the number by including the whole population whether they are observed as under age, over age, incarcerated, serving outside the country or living apart for decades but still technically married.
In fact since you seem to be low estimating I'll assume that the privileged upper class is your focus, and will abandon my earlier estimate and say 66%.
You're right. Animals don't really count.
I didn't state the ratio of individuals marrying to the number getting divorces.
I also didn't count as one divorced people that have been divorced multiple times and ignore the multiple divorce number.
I also didn't take a survey of people to arrive at a number that could include people now married as not divorced if they had been divorced in the past.
Didn't use only females or only males since that too introduced data that was inconsistent.
Or by age group. Although the divorce rate for 50 up has now reached ridiculously high numbers.
Nor did I shrink or enlarge the number by including the whole population whether they are observed as under age, over age, incarcerated, serving outside the country or living apart for decades but still technically married.
In fact since you seem to be low estimating I'll assume that the privileged upper class is your focus, and will abandon my earlier estimate and say 66%.
You're right. Animals don't really count.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
KimberleyAnne · F
People don't commit enough?
midnightsun · 26-30, M
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
Couples get married to quickly without getting to really know each other, if been together years communication seems to stop from 1 or both parties and overall it seems marriage means nothing these days if it don't work out with one, you can do it all over again 😒
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
@YukikoAmagi i mean from the sounds of it you married him for money so......... 😑
We live in a world of "instant gratification"...and when you don't get that you consider moving on.
And a contributing factor is that as a society we are no longer "connected" to our families as much as we once were. We are scattered to different parts of the country/World.
Another factor is that divorce is viewed as acceptable today. In the past it was commonly treated as a stigma.
And a contributing factor is that as a society we are no longer "connected" to our families as much as we once were. We are scattered to different parts of the country/World.
Another factor is that divorce is viewed as acceptable today. In the past it was commonly treated as a stigma.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
Lot of reasons.
One, a bit more in the individual side, is that, sadly, people marry for the wrong reasons or, at least, choose the one to marry for the wrong reasons.
Another, a bit more in the social side, is a cultural maladie that, in advance, was portraited in a quote from Freud, that (aproximately) said:
"They can´t love the ones whom they desire and they can´t desire the ones they love"
One, a bit more in the individual side, is that, sadly, people marry for the wrong reasons or, at least, choose the one to marry for the wrong reasons.
Another, a bit more in the social side, is a cultural maladie that, in advance, was portraited in a quote from Freud, that (aproximately) said:
"They can´t love the ones whom they desire and they can´t desire the ones they love"
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
Spoiledbrat · F
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
People are unhappy with their partners. Could be two people growing apart as time goes on. Might be the things they based their relationship on weren’t holding up over the years. Could be as they understand more of who they married they realized they’d made a poor choice. Might be an inability to communicate satisfactory. Stress of finances, family etc have pushed them apart instead of together. May be unfaithfulness or feeling alone in their marriage. What they want out of life might be different now than when they said I do. There’s just so many possible reasons. Not mentioning abusive marriages.
Stillwaiting · M
Most people don't put in the effort to communicate, support each other and spend quality time together. Eventually resentments build and they grow apart rather than work to fix things.
Sicarium · 46-50, M
It's not as high as people make it out. Those numbers were based on predictions from an old census that proved inaccurate.
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
@Sicarium i mean people can see it all around them. It speaks for itself.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
The same reason that marriage rates and birth rates are plummeting.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Carazaa If western societies aren't back up to pre 1970s percentage I'll be very surprised.
The news makers are probably not giving out the complete truth about the steady decline that's been going on since my entire life and the plummeting of the rate, off a cliff actually, going on in the last 5 years.
The news makers are probably not giving out the complete truth about the steady decline that's been going on since my entire life and the plummeting of the rate, off a cliff actually, going on in the last 5 years.
Carazaa · F
@SteelHands Yeah, its sad and because of this our youth are depressed!
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Carazaa I would be too if someone was telling me to behave contrary to my own interests and that if I didn't it was only because I was lacking confidence in myself.
It must be horrific to be a female these days. Getting persecuted for wanting to live the way nature intended it.
It must be horrific to be a female these days. Getting persecuted for wanting to live the way nature intended it.
People are getting married just to do it. When you do things just to do it with no real meaning behind it, it’s bound to end in disappointment.
Montanaman · M
Because people lose touch with each other and just don't have the energy or drive or desire to fight for that person they first fell in love with.
#neverforget 💞
#neverforget 💞
Steveinlandsea · 51-55, M
I think people tend to loose track of what matters in a relationship.
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@Steveinlandsea and what matters
Steveinlandsea · 51-55, M
love, kindness and staying best friends with the one you're in a relationship with....at least in my humble oppinion.
Eternity · 26-30, M
Because marriage is outdated
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Eternity If lifetime oaths can become outdated does this mean that anything, morality for example, can become an outdated practice?
Eternity · 26-30, M
@SteelHands yep
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Eternity I see. Then morally irrelevant if someone tells a lie that causes another to devote their entire life to empty purpose.
Good to know.
Good to know.
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Pressure from parents to get married early
SteelHands · 61-69, M
Are all marriages now being undertaken by very young adults?
SW-User
@SteelHands No. some don’t get married until their 30s or 40s.
AnarchoMetalchic · 36-40
People say, "For better or for worse." Then when "worse" happens, they bail.
melbeacher · 56-60, M
Easier (not cheaper) to leave rather than try to work things out.
Hoosierxdaddy62 · 61-69, M
People aren't staying married?
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Bagalamaga · 56-60, M
Marriage is outdated
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Something in the water ?🤷♂️
People are selfish
bijouxbroussard · F
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Zonuss You omitted the number one reason. Whim.
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Girls are too hot
Lilnonames · F