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[b][c=#7700B2]A friend of mine mistakenly gets knocked up by a guy that spends most of his paycheck on alcohol. They are not in love or anything but they agreed to keep the baby and she had told him she would introduce him to her family today. She called him earlier today and he said he was on his way and it's now 10pm but he still hasn't shown up. My assumptions are that he's out spending money on alcohol instead of saving up for the baby[/c][/b]

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

Of course. She is expecting her wishes and fantasies to override his bad habits, immaturity and lack of personal responsibility. If she really wants to be a mother, she will have to grow up a bit herself. Depending on this boy-man to turn into a responsible dad is not realistic and a waste of her valuable time. She has only a few months to make sure she has a job, childcare...and a mature attitude. If she insists on trying to make this wobbling guy stand up and act like a man and a dad, she will be raising two children instead of one.

karysma · 31-35, F

@greenmountaingal I think she's a bit immature and so is her baby daddy. I have a feeling she'll raise this baby by herself just like she did the first one but she said she was ready for this before she even got pregnant. She works for someone but when she goes for maternity she won't be getting any pay and I'm wondering how she'll handle the responsibility without any source of income since her baby daddy is so irresponsible

Graylight · 51-55, F

She didn't "accidentally" get pregnant is my guess. One takes precautions or they don't. These are the consequences.

He may well have an issue with alcohol, he may be immature, he may be ducking his responsibilities. The only thing your friend can do is conduct herself in a way that's best for the baby. That means being healthy, seeing a doctor, looking into child support and an emotional/economic safety net.

Bernie2 · 51-55, M

Well, wft did she expect?

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@karysma That is silly. It's not about her. It's about the baby. Concern for her image would hardly be a priority with him. And it doesn't matter anyway. She is the one who will have to take charge.

karysma · 31-35, F

@greenmountaingal problem is she let's him walk all over her. She's too sweet

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@karysma Tell her she will need to be strong to be a good mother. Mushy responses to an immature man will hurt her child and also be a poor example. She is still in the adolescent stage of paying attention to her fantasies instead of actual reality.

hunkalove · 61-69, M

"Mistakenly"?

karysma · 31-35, F

@hunkalove She says she thinks the condom broke

SW-User

Tell him to go kick rocks

Coppercoil · M

Hot

karysma · 31-35, F

@Coppercoil hot?

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