So would it be crazy/ creepy if someone traveled across the country to meet someone they've lost contact with years ago

They haven't talked in many years and only talked a few days maybe a week or two.The person is traveling their just in hopes of running into them at place they know she hangs out at. The guy has never talked to another girl or been attracted to another person. He still keeps up with her by twitter. They have almost everything in common. they just drifted apart because of distance nothing on bad terms.

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SW-User

Yes. He should directly tell her about his feelings and arrange to catch up with her participation and consent.

However, if she is the only girl he has ever bonded with then it doesn't bode well for the future of the relationship. One he could idealise her then be disappointed with reality. Two he would be choosing her from a position of believing he lacks options. We all should have options. Believing he doesn't - or his inability to get on with a range of girls - means he could be unhealthily dependent on - and fixated on her

Serenitree · F

Just Asking for a friend, are you?

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SW-User

@Serenitree the scenario came from a convention at work about Robert John Bardo and how easy something like that could happen today with so much social media. It just kinda turned into an example like this one I posted. But anyway they dragged me into because I'm planning a trip to California for a week or two and was planning on hitting up an old friend. But we never dated or lost touch with each other we message a couple times a year and catch but I have too much social anxiety and arkwandness to meet internet friends in real life

Serenitree · F

@SW-User I don't have social anxiety, and I won't meet with internet friends. I think it would be foolhardy. On the other hand, there are a couple I've known online since 2010, and I feel I'd be safe with them, but it would have to be somewhere public, with a lot of people around.

Serenitree · F

@SW-User But Bardo was never friends with the woman he stalked. The scenario you described is different. It's two old friends. He was a stalker.

badapple

thats a stalker

Somewhereovertherainbow · 46-50, F

A little crazy....

LyricalOne · F

Uber creepy. 😕

AmbivalentFriability · 26-30

Yep.

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