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I’m in love with a really close friend, I think she feels the same way, what do I do?

A little background, it’s kind of a strange situation, we have been friends for 2.5 years and in an organization where members are not allowed to date each other. We text each other constantly when we’re at home, and hangout a lot when we are near each other. I don’t know what to do. She texted me at like midnight the other day and told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. She sends me multiple Snapchats a day, and texts me all the time.
On the others hand she is naturally very flirty person, and I don’t want to jump the gun, but I really do think she’s into me
The last time a group of us went out to drink, we got really drunk and she kissed and hugged me a lot, but she was hugging everybody, and kissed some other guys, she is really flirty when she’s drunk

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Davidarendale0 · 36-40, M Best Comment

Okay this might sound comical but I'm being completely serious. You are probably already in the friend zone based on how much she Snapchats you. Your only chance is making a bold move. If you can somehow get her to have dinner with you alone without giving away your intentions that would be ideal. If you can arrange it and she figures out it's more than just dinner that's acceptable. During dinner make lots of eye contact. After dinner if it is at a restaurant as you are leaving (and I'm being serious) sweep her off her feet and kiss her. If you don't think you can manage that maneuver without tripping or dropping her just without warning wrap your hand around her waist and pull her in close and kiss her. There won't be any ambiguity about the sort of relationship you want to have with her and girls love confident bold moves. It just might be enough to break you out of the friend zone. If the dinner is at your place then do the sweeping maneuver or the waist wrap as you appear to be walking her to the door.

Davidarendale0 · 36-40, M

@Davidarendale0 just one more thing it's important she think the date is going to end with no escalation of contact before you pull the maneuver. This will catch her off guard and be emotionally drawing which is what you want because it sounds like her emotions for you now are platonic. Good luck

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

She's not a true friend if she leaves just because you love her and she doesn't feel the same

Rusham · M

Check this out as I think it offers great advice for your problem.

https://www.quora.com/What-should-I-do-if-I-have-a-major-crush-on-a-close-friend-and-I-dont-want-to-ruin-our-friendship

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@Rusham thank you

Rusham · M

I liked the first guys ideas and I am sure they could help solve the problem nicely

Tracos · 51-55, M

The stupidest thing I ever did was not tell her my feelings....

... I found out way too late they were mutual at that time

VoloProVeritas62 · 61-69, M

Go for it. Tell her how you feel and let her tell you how she feels. Then go from there.

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@VoloProVeritas62 if she doesn’t feel the same way I don’t want to ruin the friendship though

VoloProVeritas62 · 61-69, M

@SW-User Have you ever heard of agape love? In case you haven't, it's love that is unconditional. It heals the broken hearted, gives strength to the faint of heart, comforts the mournful, and brings hope to the unloved. This is the kind of love that God has for us and this is the kind of love that we should have for each other. Believe me, it is easier said than done. But it is not impossible to have for mankind. The more you practice it, the easier it gets. The best and hardest attribute about this kind of love is that you never stop loving them regardless. This is the kind of love that I practice in my heart.

Practice this in your heart and let her know that your friendship with her will always come first.

KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M

Is it worth leaving the organization? That's a weird rule.

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@KingofPizza2 I would just have to switch units

KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M

@SW-User Ah, okay... well, if that's something you can do and she really does feel the same way, go for it! It would suck to be kept apart by bureaucracy.

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@KingofPizza2 but I don’t know if she feels the same way for sure, and it would really suck to switch units

darkestnightskylittlej · 31-35, F

Don't do it. Not yet anyways. Just I'm bitter, don't listen to me.

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@darkestnightskylittlej when though?

darkestnightskylittlej · 31-35, F

@SW-User I don't know. Just if you don't want to lose her as a friend, get to know eachother a lot better. Let her be gone from her ex awhile. Don't rush it. I mean it's your choice. If you want to go for it now. Maybe that's how it's supposed to be for you two.

awhitedot · 46-50, M

Members not allowed to date? Boyscouts?

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@awhitedot ROTC unit

awhitedot · 46-50, M

@SW-User Yikes. Hmmmmm.....that is a tough one.

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@TotalMiss but what if I’m wrong, that would fuck up the friendship

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