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I Hate When People Pressure Me

My dad just asked me right now if I'm interested in taking a computer program class. Why the hell would I be interested in that when I've never once expressed interest in computers?! Sure, I'm good with them but I'm not passionate about them. I just wish my parents would stop making my choices. I'm in my twenties so I feel like I should be running my life the way I want. Not them. For right now, I'm fine with the way my life is. At my job I'm making more than minimum wage at my job plus bonuses. I'm helping clients lose weight and they have been. They keep wanting me to find new work because they know my job isn't in my field but that doesn't mean I don't like it. Sure, it's not a career but it's good for now until an opportunity for acting comes along.

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uilesd · 22-25, M

Well from the sound of it, he asked you, which isn't really pressure but a invitation. Just tell him that you're not interested. Now if he continues to ask you then yes that pressuring you, after you rejected the idea multiple times.
I would pressure is someone either putting expectations up, repeatedly asking you something, or making you do something you don't want to.

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JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@uilesd: No. Only because my parents are not your sitcom family where you discuss your feelings and we hug at the end. If you disagree with them, it turns into a fight even when you don't mean for it to turn that way. I guess I can only do that with my mom but my dad is too stubborn to listen.

uilesd · 22-25, M

I see. Now I get where you come from. I can't say I understand your pain but I want you to know you have control of your life, no one else.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@uilesd: Thank you. I guess sometimes I feel guilty because my dad is a computer guy so it's like he wants me to be just like him. Like I said, I may be good at it which I'm proud of because we are living in a world dominated by technology but that's not what I want to do with my life because I know I won't be happy.

Northwest · M

Your parents are concerned, because you are not working in your field, and your job seems to be transient work.

Obviously, you don't have to listen to what they, if you're self-sufficient, and that means, that on your own, and without any help from them, can pay for the following:

- Place to live
- Clothes
- food
- utilities
- car
- gas
- insurance
- entertainment
- etc.

and if you can do this long term.

If you're good at computers (and you have to figure out what that means), then it's not a bad idea to enhance your education. Short to long term, every single field is going to be computerized. If you have the education in it, then you have a leg up over the competition.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

I know enough about computers to get by. I was born during a time when the internet was first coming out. I know more than everyone I work with whenever there's a technical issue. I just don't like to do things that are a waste of time to me.

NigelDoes · 56-60, M

I hate that kind of pressure as well it's not in any way proactive or helpful.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

Thank you! Exactly! I just wish they would stop looking at me like I'm suffering. Sure, I wish I was doing my dream career but my moment will come when it comes. Maybe in a year, I'll look at my finances and see if I can move out. But right now I'm fine with the way things are.

kingofthenorth87 · 36-40, M

How about serving in the Israeli army?

Kicking some Hamas/Isil/Hesbollah ass, growing and finding more about yourself while you are young.

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