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I Hate When People Pressure Me

My dad just asked me right now if I'm interested in taking a computer program class. Why the hell would I be interested in that when I've never once expressed interest in computers?! Sure, I'm good with them but I'm not passionate about them. I just wish my parents would stop making my choices. I'm in my twenties so I feel like I should be running my life the way I want. Not them. For right now, I'm fine with the way my life is. At my job I'm making more than minimum wage at my job plus bonuses. I'm helping clients lose weight and they have been. They keep wanting me to find new work because they know my job isn't in my field but that doesn't mean I don't like it. Sure, it's not a career but it's good for now until an opportunity for acting comes along.

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uilesd · 26-30, M

Well from the sound of it, he asked you, which isn't really pressure but a invitation. Just tell him that you're not interested. Now if he continues to ask you then yes that pressuring you, after you rejected the idea multiple times.
I would pressure is someone either putting expectations up, repeatedly asking you something, or making you do something you don't want to.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

Yeah I know what you mean. It may be the first time he's asked me that particular question but he's asked me in the past "Would you take a class like this or like this?" Same with my mom. If I wanted to take a class in something, I would do it. I don't need to be asked.

uilesd · 26-30, M

I see where your going. Just wondering have you ever told your parents that?
"If I wanted to take a class in something, I would do it. I don't need to be asked."

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@uilesd: No. Only because my parents are not your sitcom family where you discuss your feelings and we hug at the end. If you disagree with them, it turns into a fight even when you don't mean for it to turn that way. I guess I can only do that with my mom but my dad is too stubborn to listen.

uilesd · 26-30, M

I see. Now I get where you come from. I can't say I understand your pain but I want you to know you have control of your life, no one else.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@uilesd: Thank you. I guess sometimes I feel guilty because my dad is a computer guy so it's like he wants me to be just like him. Like I said, I may be good at it which I'm proud of because we are living in a world dominated by technology but that's not what I want to do with my life because I know I won't be happy.