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I M A Friend Of A Friend Of A Friend

I have a friend who when I felt comfortable enough to show some sketches too. They went quiet then opened their phone and showed me a plethora of sketches they had made which were amazing.
They are very talented.
But
I just don’t get why they chose that moment to show me. They didn’t comment at all in mine. The moment was suddenly all about them.
I didn’t get it.

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SatyrService · M

maybe they wer comming out of the secret artist closet
that IS a real thing, maybe they were sharing witih you, becasue you would not make fun of them for it.
OR
maybe they felt better at it?
maybe they ARE self absorbed...

Id like to think it was my first guess

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Carlisle · F

But yes I try to stay positive. Like it’s their issue not mine👍🏽@SatyrService

SatyrService · M

@Carlisle some people, never can feel good about themselves, but to make others seem lesser.

compassion for such persons is hard

Carlisle · F

I agree @SatyrService

djjohnson · 41-45, M

Did you ask them what was going on and tell them how you felt?

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Carlisle · F

I wasn’t hurt. I just observed that this is how she responds whenever I show her my stuff. Without congratulating me. It gave me the impression that maybe she wasn’t comfortable being happy for others. And that’s fine with me also because she can only be herself. @djjohnson

djjohnson · 41-45, M

ie mean "for example." Those were just examples. You tell her how you felt. The trick is not to tell them why you think they did it. You said you think she might not be comfortable saying things to others. or that you felt the moment was all about them. My point was that you want to avoid saying that. Let them tell you what they were thinking or feeling. And you stick to what you were feeling. Give them the chance to explain their side. it will help you understand each other better.

Carlisle · F

And if it goes wrong? I think I’m just going to back off for now. I’m not a therapist and I would not feel comfortable confronting someone.

Byron8by7 · M

Some people are slow to react. Some people have differing degrees of social skills, and they interact differently.

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