I have been really struggling with this...

I forgave my mom and grandmother for the years of abuse they silently did to me and my two younger sisters. Randomly feelings of anger, anxiety and hatred have been resurfacing. How do you forgive someone for years and live a peaceful life and then these dangerous emotions pop up and take control over your life only to leave you broken and tortured by the events that took place. What do I do? Im suffering everyday from reoccurring memories that won't go away.😪

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Itsmrsockmonkey · M Best Comment

By prayer and staying close to the Lord. You give it all to Him and let Him help you to love and forgive them. Jesus was asked, master how many times should we forgive? He said 70 times 70. You couldn't keep up with the number of times. You just love them through Him.

Seabird · 31-35, F

@Itsmrsockmonkey Thank you for that honest reminder... I will do that! Its hard when its everyday! I will pray about it! ❤

Itsmrsockmonkey · M

I will pray also. Where two or more are gathered together in His name, He's in the midst. Thank you for B.A!@Seabird

Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

Anger comes first then sometimes it just settles in the best thing to do is forget about them

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Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

@Seabird hope you feel better cheers..

Seabird · 31-35, F

@Dancingxghost I do your a great therapist! 😄💯

Dancingxghost · 36-40, M

@Seabird im a terrible therapist but im better with jokes..but thanks my main goal is to help others with what little i can provide

Spoiledbrat · F

Maybe you haven’t faced them or accepted them the way you think you have. If that’s the case try verbalizing your feelings about the events that took place that are torturing you because you are likely holding on to them without being aware of it.

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Seabird · 31-35, F

@Spoiledbrat Funny thing is Ive been in therapy for a year and the guy tells me last month.. Ya know I don't have experience with this kinda trauma.. I'm like ok.. It was awkward and I felt so let down by opening up all that time.. What the fuck is wrong with ppl.. Dick! ☺ 😢

Seabird · 31-35, F

@Spoiledbrat A blog sounds cool... Maybe I will try that out...

Lostpoet · M

You need to talk to someone and try to forgive.

PrivateHell · M

I 'm in the same situation basically. I just take it one day at a time and try to push through it.

Seabird · 31-35, F

@PrivateHell Thank you for sharing! Its what I'm doing too.. Its so tough...

PrivateHell · M

@Seabird it really is. For most of my my life I was filled with such hate, anger and bitterness. I still have bouts of it, but am learning to,be better.

djjohnson · 41-45, M

By learning to see the good in them at least as much as you see the bad.

Seabird · 31-35, F

@djjohnson That's what I'm struggling with... I do love them but my mind twists with confusion the thought of the ways they hurt us sadistically for pleasure. So the thought of them feels like oh there great I love them but then my heart reminds me by giving me a warning anxiety feeling of oh danger.. Like when you touch a hot stove.. You don't keep touching it.. It burns and hurts..

djjohnson · 41-45, M

Another thing thats helps is to not assume evil intent. Its really hard to like/Forgive someone when we think they hurt us because they are evil. A person can still hurt us even with good intention.

NiightOwl

Wishing you the best and hope that time will in some way heal those emotional wounds within.

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