I have been really struggling with this...

I forgave my mom and grandmother for the years of abuse they silently did to me and my two younger sisters. Randomly feelings of anger, anxiety and hatred have been resurfacing. How do you forgive someone for years and live a peaceful life and then these dangerous emotions pop up and take control over your life only to leave you broken and tortured by the events that took place. What do I do? Im suffering everyday from reoccurring memories that won't go away.😪

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djjohnson · 41-45, M

By learning to see the good in them at least as much as you see the bad.

Seabird · 31-35, F

@djjohnson That's what I'm struggling with... I do love them but my mind twists with confusion the thought of the ways they hurt us sadistically for pleasure. So the thought of them feels like oh there great I love them but then my heart reminds me by giving me a warning anxiety feeling of oh danger.. Like when you touch a hot stove.. You don't keep touching it.. It burns and hurts..

djjohnson · 41-45, M

Another thing thats helps is to not assume evil intent. Its really hard to like/Forgive someone when we think they hurt us because they are evil. A person can still hurt us even with good intention.