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I Believe That Love Comes Unexpectadly

Please Give Me Your Opinion... There is no doubt that I am afraid of commitment..I have worked long and hard for what little i have accomplished. It is scary to me to give it all up considering the divorce rate..I ran across this online and thought it summed up exactly what many of us feel..Please give me your opinion...

“When someone is available and decent,” Page explains, “something inside us knows [this person] can get to our nest, our soul — the place where we care the most and can be hurt the most. And our unconscious gets panicked.” If you find yourself breaking up with someone awesome for no good reason, check yourself; you might be acting out of fear. After all, real love is a big deal. It involves a leap of faith, and that can be a scary thing. Those who give in to the Wave fall out of love before they even give themselves a chance to fall properly in love, and that’s kind of sad.

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NaoLoirasMais

It is that fear that ended my marriage after 18 years. She always had a fear that someday I would leave her, so much so that she build walls and hid parts of her life from me to that point that I could no longer trust her. Once the trust was gone I began looking into all she had hid, and she found her lying to me to keep it hidden. Its over now and I feel like a fool for trusting and believing anything she ever told me. I often wonder if her fear has infected me so much that I will never trust again. I do know that my pain is such that I choose to hurt others rather than to allow them a chance to hurt me. I will always be lonely now and will never have what we could have, what we should have had. I am sorry that I project my pain onto all of you. Thank you for letting me hurt.