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I Have a Sister

She is in hospice care now. By the time her cancer was diagnosed it had spread too far for them to do anything for her. Just morphine for the pain.

I'm told there is no point trying to get there to see her. She won't last long enough for me to get there.

I texted her instead of called because it's too hard for her to speak. It's awfully hard to know what to say. I don't know how I feel. Sort of shocked and numb.

Thought maybe posting this would help me deal with the emotions. It hasn't
I went through this with my brother at the beginning of April. He had no family within reach and we couldn't have seen him if we got there.

It's hard. Some thoughts that helped comfort me:

He knew he was loved.

I was there with my husband and my mother and my brother - and years earlier, my father, my brother-in-law and father-in-law.

While it would be and was a comfort to me to be with them, I'm not at all sure it was of much importance to them. Not that they didn't love those of us who were there.

The dying seem absorbed with not this life, but whatever comes next, like someone moving out of a house that was comfortable and pleasant, but has been outgrown.

I don't pretend to know what happens next. I only share my impression of what I've seen.
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
So sorry.Lord Jesus let Bob have words and give his sister peace.Im also going to ask for a miracle.
Montanaman · M
@Butterflykisses24 😔💞🤗🙏
SwampFlower · 31-35, F
I'm so sorry to hear this. She may still be comforted by hearing your voice. When I have been in hospital and too unwell to communicate, my dad has called to play music for me. My sister has called to read to me. Something like that could be of great confort to her right now and help to give you closure.

You have my deepest sympathies. 🤗
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@SwampFlower my daddy always calls and reads to me. It is very comforting.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
I'm so sorry. I don't think it is as important what words you say as much as just being close and feeling the love from one another. I hope your sister gets a miracle and that you are able to visit with her.
Doomflower · 36-40, M
Omg I'm so sorry I can't imagine my sister dying on me. :-(
GoodoldBob · 61-69, M
@Doomflower Thank you for the kind words
even if she can't really talk, she might like to hear you. if you can.
Montanaman · M
Damn, I'm truly sorry.😔💔💓🤗😢🙏🙏
StarLily · 51-55, F
I'm so sorry.😞
TexChik · F
How far away is she from you?
GoodoldBob · 61-69, M
@TexChik A little over 600 miles
TexChik · F
@GoodoldBob oh no ... with all this virus crap , getting to her quickly would be impossible . My
Mom passed with me desperately trying to get to her . I was 10 minutes too late . I’m hate that for you !
Oster1 · M
My heart goes out to you, your Sister and your family. I do know what that’s like. I’m sitting here just thinking of a possible way. I am so sorry and will pray that she doesn’t suffer, needlessly.🙏

If someone there had a smartphone that you could see each other and talk to her, might be a way.
Quizzical · 46-50, M
Sorry to hear that 😔
gregloa · 61-69, M
My oldest sister died of cancer. It had already spread when they found it. Can she still respond to your text? Tell your sister you love her. Remind her of some happy childhood memories. Let her know that you love her very much and that you’ll never forget her.
TexChik · F
I’m so sorry
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Penny · 46-50, F
would it be difficult to go see her anyway? just in case you can make it in time.

 
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