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I Have a Sister

She is in hospice care now. By the time her cancer was diagnosed it had spread too far for them to do anything for her. Just morphine for the pain.

I'm told there is no point trying to get there to see her. She won't last long enough for me to get there.

I texted her instead of called because it's too hard for her to speak. It's awfully hard to know what to say. I don't know how I feel. Sort of shocked and numb.

Thought maybe posting this would help me deal with the emotions. It hasn't

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I went through this with my brother at the beginning of April. He had no family within reach and we couldn't have seen him if we got there.

It's hard. Some thoughts that helped comfort me:

He knew he was loved.

I was there with my husband and my mother and my brother - and years earlier, my father, my brother-in-law and father-in-law.

While it would be and was a comfort to me to be with them, I'm not at all sure it was of much importance to them. Not that they didn't love those of us who were there.

The dying seem absorbed with not this life, but whatever comes next, like someone moving out of a house that was comfortable and pleasant, but has been outgrown.

I don't pretend to know what happens next. I only share my impression of what I've seen.