I’m in a toxic relationship and I don’t know how to Leave [I Need Advice] I’ve ran out on my re...

If you contact the police they can get you in contact with a domestic abuse advocate. You can get a civil protection order. They can help you find new housing. I just left an abusive relationship, if you need help please message me and I can help you find resources.

4meAndyou · F

MY third ex was abusive. He was also destructive at times, and eventually lost his mind and became murderous.

I could have left at any time, and I kept making excuses. If you are doing the same thing, then you know it.

If you are living in public housing, (and it sounds like you are), you have to notify the housing authority that you have a dangerous and unwanted tenant living in your apartment.

I can read between the lines of your post, above, and that is how I know you will make excuses why you can't do that.

If you don't involve the police, it's because you don't want to. You have a lot more control than you think.

fernie2

Yep...that is exactly what males like him do...make you feel shitty about yourself, blame yourself, like you deserve it. I'm not going to lecture you...you've heard it all...and you know the truth. He needs to go to jail...stop enabling him, protecting him for whatever reason...there is no love here...this is sick...not love...control...not love...men like that only escalate. You have GOT to grow some ovaries and get out. GET HELP! Yeah, people will all tell you the truth but you don't want to hear them. You deserve love and respect and peace...only you can achieve that...and you have the POWER...just not enough confidence...he has eaten away at whatever self esteem you had...it's classic...stop thinking about how scary, hard it's going to be...that paralyzes you...imagine him being gone and you being free. Don't ever be a victim again

Oster1 · M

You are being subjected to mind control and manipulation. Go to the housing authority and tell them. Have them move you somewhere else and never, never allow this again. Yes, you deserve a new start but please learn this valuable lesson and grow from it. My best wishes to you!

ExperienceDLT · M

You need to get out he views you as a possession not as a human being and that is dangerous for you you need to get out of that situation before you get seriously hurt by him

SW-User

Leave and protect yourself. This will only escalate and he may kill you if you don't get help. I am being very serious, it's okay to protect yourself. 1.800.799.7233 make the call if you can from some place safe and from a friend's or family members phone so he won't see it.

morrgin · F

You are right to avoid the police. Involving the authorities usually only works if you have very little history with the other person. In a relationship like yours, going to the police will just make the person more angry and put you in more danger. They don't like someone telling them what they can and cannot do. They don't like the person they think they own and control to get away from them. You have to come up with a plan.

nonsensiclesnail · F

Go to the hotline dot org.
You need real, solid advice for this.

HootyTheNightOwl

Either the police or a refuge are your only choices.

The police can help you to get emergency accommodation if you tell them that you just want out of the situation that you are in. It's worth noting that getting a place in a refuge might be a bigger problem than you may think - so you'll likely need the hotel room that the police can help you to sort out.

SW-User

Speak to a solicitor asap

Nobody00 · F

call cops get protection order where he can't approach you. Once he sees you aren't playing anymore and you are serious he will back off I am sure he doesn't want to go to jail... He allows himself to do it...cause you kind of allow it. YOu've showed him in the past that no matter how many times he breaks your apartment, you won't do anything serious to stop him. Life is too short and there is not enough time in life to spend your years on this.

LoveTriumphsOverHate · 36-40, M

Have you ever heard of strychnine?

questionWeaver

I would never advise calling law enforcement to end a relationship.

Moving on is a good plan

Unfortunately you still need his civility, so you can move on.

Law enforcement does not get you that civility ... they can escort you ... they can not solve.

Are you in danger of violence?

Slade · 56-60, M

Shit that sucks. Prayers out🤗

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Bushmanoz · 56-60, M

I think the police is your only real option

Lilnonames · F

Buy mace or a gun he goes into a rage shoot him mace him then call the cops

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