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I Am a Monster

This person I'm chatting with is pouring their heart and soul to me. Talking how they want to be the best for me, love me unconditionally, give me everything. All I can do is paint pretty words back that have no meaning or substance behind them.

I'm leading this poor soul on. Having them think that we are going to have such a bright loving future when, in reality, I feel nothing for them. I won't say that because I enjoy having someone to talk to for now. When I get bored I'll just stop answering. That's how it usually goes. Selfish and monstrous.

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Just be honest with them, the sooner the better. It may be painful while you're doing it, but you'll both be better off in the long run, because you'll avoid a lot of anger from them. Remember, even though they can't show the contents of your chat in the open thread, they can show it to others privately. And if you do this to enough people, word will spread. And when it does, you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

bunnyXbunny · 36-40, M

@TeresaRudolph71 Trust me, I always blame myself.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@bunnyXbunny Well that's a start. At least you take responsibility for your actions. The guy I know who did this to me blamed me, and all the others who were on the receiving end of his love bombing (and there were many).

Surprisingly, he has many allies who also blame the women he has used and thrown away, saying that he can't really help it and that we should have known better than to be fooled by him. But then, if they really think that we should have known better than to think that he could be genuine, why are they still friends with him? 🤔 It's funny how they don't see the irony in that. I suppose they think that he genuinely cares about them because they are somehow superior to us, the ones who have been discarded.

I know, this is kind of getting off the subject, because this is about someone else who has done the same thing. But it really puzzles me, how he can have some women friends whom he truly cares about, but then he decides to treat other women like toys, to be played with for a while and then thrown away. I've been wondering how he decides which women are human beings with real value, who are worthy of his respect, and which women are just toys to be played with for a while and then thrown away. But I guess you can only know your own motivations, not someone else's.

But getting back to you, I think it's important to understand why you do what you do, and why you feel comfortable with it. Otherwise you'll keep doing the same thing over and over. I think that something must be missing in the lives of people who feel the need to do this. Until you learn to truly care about someone else, I don't think you're fully alive. But that's just my two cents. I'm actually saying this because I care, not to be judgmental.

bunnyXbunny · 36-40, M

@TeresaRudolph71 Maybe he doesn't choose. I can't speak for him but for me, when I meet a person, mentally a coin is flipped. Heads, I make the effort to keep you in my life. Tails, I stop talking to you after a bit and make no effort to build or maintain a relationship. For any person who's been in my life a long time, that coin gets flipped again periodically. I've had friends who I have know for 10+ years who, one day, I just stopped talking to because I didn't want to any more.

Maybe he gets off on knowing he can do it. Woo women to prove to himself he is awesome. Add some form of value to his self esteem and then drop them once he's bleed them enough to fuel his narcissism. I'd say I do the same but I'm not narcissistic. I hate myself wildly.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@bunnyXbunny Thanks for the insight. I suppose if it really is as random as a coin flipping, it's not really a reflection on me, or any of the other women he has interacted with.

This guy is definitely a narcissist. I'm glad to hear that you aren't.

bunnyXbunny · 36-40, M

@TeresaRudolph71 Take it from a person who burns more bridges than a pot head does blunts. 9 times out of 10, people who do what that guy and I do are at the root of the problem. No matter the reason.