How Do You Keep Eyes Only For Your Partner?
I don't need you sassy shits of the internet to express your butthurtedness, I need the actual mature humans to give advice on this topic.
22-25, M
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KuroNeko · 41-45, F
You need to be realistic about finding others attractive and having love for people. As for the rules, they should be spoken about upfront with your partner so as you both agree on what is overstepping the mark. Its unlikely that you'll only find one person attractive in life. It's more down to not acting on it.
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JoePourMan · 61-69, M
saragoodtimes · F
@JoePourMan she is one lucky woman
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
@saragoodtimes Thanks, I'm the lucky one 🤗
saragoodtimes · F
@JoePourMan you both are best to the both of you
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
girlofparadise · 31-35, F
From a female point of view, I just imagine that my partner is the cream of the crop and everyone else pales in comparison so why would I even look at someone else. Before that though, you have to be with a person who you genuinely love, find attractive and whom you share some ideas and morals with.
InvictusIndigo · 22-25, M
@SW-User How do you, personallly, go about seeking the right partner? And is there only one in the world that we are comaptible with or several? How do you tell that this person could be the right one? I'm not asking to be snarky or anything like that, I'm young and genuinely curious, and I appreciate older people taking the time to respond and listen so thank you :)
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@InvictusIndigo I totally get it. And even sometimes you could be right yet be totally wrong years later.
You have to trust your own gut and feelings. That's a LOT of honesty you have to have with yourself.
When you've taken a beating... who are you going to reach your hand out to? When you've had the best day of your life... who are you going to want to tell first? When you find that something that would make any person smile... who is the first person you want to give it to? When you walk into that room, who is going to be the person that puts a smile on your face?
Maybe it's a dream that one person will be the answer to all of those questions...
You have to trust your own gut and feelings. That's a LOT of honesty you have to have with yourself.
When you've taken a beating... who are you going to reach your hand out to? When you've had the best day of your life... who are you going to want to tell first? When you find that something that would make any person smile... who is the first person you want to give it to? When you walk into that room, who is going to be the person that puts a smile on your face?
Maybe it's a dream that one person will be the answer to all of those questions...
MorbidCynic · F
InvictusIndigo · 22-25, M
@MorbidCynic I'm intrigued by your comment, that it's not necessarily just about respecting the other person but also respecting yourself enough to make the right choices. Thank you
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
InvictusIndigo · 22-25, M
@YMITheWayIM But how do you form your mindset to achieve these things? The goals and intentions are good, but how do you get there?
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
@InvictusIndigo TBH, I don't know. In my case, I waited for 3 months before confessing my feelings for her, 1 year before holding her hands, 3 years before our 1st kiss, 5 years before getting engaged and 10 years before finally getting married.
Looks like time, patience and commitment are the main ingredients.
Looks like time, patience and commitment are the main ingredients.
Honestly, I don't think it matters if men look at attractive women. It's natural.
If your partner is the jealous type, cultivate interests in other things in the environment around you - architecture, geography, landscape photography, petting the dogs you meet.
Or engage your partner in conversation whenever there are attractive women around, keep your eyes and ears on what she's saying and give appropriate responses. If you make the topic interesting, that should make it easier.
It's not wrong to look at women - if it's discrete, without inappropriate actions.
I point attractive women out to my husband and we chat about the qualities we find beautiful. It give him a few moments of pleasure and has no effect whatever on our relationship.
If your partner is the jealous type, cultivate interests in other things in the environment around you - architecture, geography, landscape photography, petting the dogs you meet.
Or engage your partner in conversation whenever there are attractive women around, keep your eyes and ears on what she's saying and give appropriate responses. If you make the topic interesting, that should make it easier.
It's not wrong to look at women - if it's discrete, without inappropriate actions.
I point attractive women out to my husband and we chat about the qualities we find beautiful. It give him a few moments of pleasure and has no effect whatever on our relationship.
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Konicha605 · 22-25, F
InvictusIndigo · 22-25, M
@Konicha605 How did it help you? What did you do in your time being single?
