Why does it feel like my parents hold me back?
I've seen so many of my friends leave NYC and move to other cities and have become successful. They have their own place, car, getting married and having kids. On the other hand I am just stuck. I love my parents and appreciate everything they've done but they are holding me back. I live with my parents mainly because I am helping to pay bills and helping my Mom around the house since she's on disability. She can do things for herself but when it comes to heavy lifting she cant. Plus my Dad is at work most of the time. I have older siblings but they do little to help out so it seems all the pressure is on me.
I am 30 and can't do it anymore. I work as a Graphic Designer, I get paid decently but should be making more. Most of my money goes towards rent and bills which leaves me little to save up. I wanted to go back to school and get my masters and PHD to make more but due to money and time it is tough. I come from west africa, so a lot of my parents money besides rent and bills goes back home. We have a large family and it is tough to help everyone. If it wasn't for that things would be much easier financially.
On top of that my parents treat me as if I'm a little kid and I hate it so much. It's like they want me to live life the way they want me to. They are very traditional. I have wasted so many, I mean so many years and time living and investing in others that I lost focus on me and it hurts. I could've done so much and accomplished so many things. A friend of mine asked me to move to where he is and he has a job waiting for me that pays a lot more. I can be making more and still send money back to my parents. The issue is my Mom does not want me to leave.
I guess since out of all my siblings I help her out the most and she might feel lonely when I leave. The first time I brought this up to her, she began to cry and asked why would I want to move. I have reached my point and plan to move out within the next 6 months. I just can't live like this anymore, I am truly sick and tired.
NYC is getting too expensive and crowded to the point that you have to work like crazy just to live decent. Parents plan to move to another state after they retire in 2 yrs and want me to move with them. I do not want to do that. I need to experience some independence. They have to understand I am 30 not 15. I need to get my life together now that I am still young.
I am 30 and can't do it anymore. I work as a Graphic Designer, I get paid decently but should be making more. Most of my money goes towards rent and bills which leaves me little to save up. I wanted to go back to school and get my masters and PHD to make more but due to money and time it is tough. I come from west africa, so a lot of my parents money besides rent and bills goes back home. We have a large family and it is tough to help everyone. If it wasn't for that things would be much easier financially.
On top of that my parents treat me as if I'm a little kid and I hate it so much. It's like they want me to live life the way they want me to. They are very traditional. I have wasted so many, I mean so many years and time living and investing in others that I lost focus on me and it hurts. I could've done so much and accomplished so many things. A friend of mine asked me to move to where he is and he has a job waiting for me that pays a lot more. I can be making more and still send money back to my parents. The issue is my Mom does not want me to leave.
I guess since out of all my siblings I help her out the most and she might feel lonely when I leave. The first time I brought this up to her, she began to cry and asked why would I want to move. I have reached my point and plan to move out within the next 6 months. I just can't live like this anymore, I am truly sick and tired.
NYC is getting too expensive and crowded to the point that you have to work like crazy just to live decent. Parents plan to move to another state after they retire in 2 yrs and want me to move with them. I do not want to do that. I need to experience some independence. They have to understand I am 30 not 15. I need to get my life together now that I am still young.
