Why do people think everything is about them?
This might be long, friends. Sorry bout that..
So, as a person who deals with severe depression, I have made it known to friends of mine that I WILL isolate myself when I am upset, but not to worry about me. I will let them know when I am having a rough time, so that they will be aware that I am going to need some time alone, but I ask them not to get involved. I don't see a reason to burden people with my issues. It's my fight, not theirs. So, I was talking to someone, and they were very concerned when I wouldn't let them help me, and started making everything about them, mainly because they don't want to sit around and wait for me to decide when I feel like talking to them again. I know it's not fair. But I need to be alone, and I'm at a point where it's even hard to function, let alone give attention to someone else when I need to focus on myself for a while. Anyway, this person took it very personally that I refused to let them help me, and they are now ignoring me. Why do people always think it's their job to help me when I don't want it, I don't deserve it, and most of all, I didn't ask for it? By the way, this is just the gist of it, there are a few more details that go into it, but mainly, I don't get why people can't just accept that when I'm depressed, I can't necessarily make commitments and focus on other people, especially when I'm working to just get out of bed in the morning.
So, as a person who deals with severe depression, I have made it known to friends of mine that I WILL isolate myself when I am upset, but not to worry about me. I will let them know when I am having a rough time, so that they will be aware that I am going to need some time alone, but I ask them not to get involved. I don't see a reason to burden people with my issues. It's my fight, not theirs. So, I was talking to someone, and they were very concerned when I wouldn't let them help me, and started making everything about them, mainly because they don't want to sit around and wait for me to decide when I feel like talking to them again. I know it's not fair. But I need to be alone, and I'm at a point where it's even hard to function, let alone give attention to someone else when I need to focus on myself for a while. Anyway, this person took it very personally that I refused to let them help me, and they are now ignoring me. Why do people always think it's their job to help me when I don't want it, I don't deserve it, and most of all, I didn't ask for it? By the way, this is just the gist of it, there are a few more details that go into it, but mainly, I don't get why people can't just accept that when I'm depressed, I can't necessarily make commitments and focus on other people, especially when I'm working to just get out of bed in the morning.