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Why do people think everything is about them?

This might be long, friends. Sorry bout that..

So, as a person who deals with severe depression, I have made it known to friends of mine that I WILL isolate myself when I am upset, but not to worry about me. I will let them know when I am having a rough time, so that they will be aware that I am going to need some time alone, but I ask them not to get involved. I don't see a reason to burden people with my issues. It's my fight, not theirs. So, I was talking to someone, and they were very concerned when I wouldn't let them help me, and started making everything about them, mainly because they don't want to sit around and wait for me to decide when I feel like talking to them again. I know it's not fair. But I need to be alone, and I'm at a point where it's even hard to function, let alone give attention to someone else when I need to focus on myself for a while. Anyway, this person took it very personally that I refused to let them help me, and they are now ignoring me. Why do people always think it's their job to help me when I don't want it, I don't deserve it, and most of all, I didn't ask for it? By the way, this is just the gist of it, there are a few more details that go into it, but mainly, I don't get why people can't just accept that when I'm depressed, I can't necessarily make commitments and focus on other people, especially when I'm working to just get out of bed in the morning.
SW-User
Well, some people are just attention seeking whores.

The concept of anything not being about them never enters there mind,

It’s an honest shame because most of these people are good people, they just need to learn that some space is sometimes needed. They also need to understand that sometimes, a problem isn’t always about them... nor should they make it about them.

With that being said, most of these people have a self conscious issue. They tend to believe that the people around them will eventually leave or... they’ve lived a life where people constantly blame them for everything.
SW-User
@marilynmichelle It’s hard to share, I’m aware.

However, perhaps you should try talking to one of your friends about whatever Is on your mind. You don’t have to go into too much detail but you could just let them in a little.

It’s a bad feeling to know that someone you care for is suffering and there is nothing you can do.
@SW-User Yeah, I suppose you're right.
SW-User
@marilynmichelle Last thing you want is to go away one day and return to find an empty room.

That being said, if there’s only one person that demand someone your attention... just remember that you don’t owe anyone anything.

When you have depression, you’ve got to think about what you want first.
I would count yourself incredibly lucky that you have people who want to be involved and help. All too often I have known people to disappear when I've been down.

See it as a positive that they want to be there and just tell them I'll call you when I'm ready.
@LukeTheDuke And I know I'm very lucky, and I appreciate it. This actually helps, thank you.
StokedFox · 36-40, F
Girl just take care of yourself. Whatever it takes. Yes it gets lonely, but those people don't get it, never will.
TheOtakuNextDoor · 26-30, M
This. This make so much sense.
TightyWhiteyKing · 26-30, M
They want to help
@TightyWhiteyKing And I'm aware of that, and I appreciate it, I really do. But I don't want the help, nor do I need it, so I'm not sure why they can't just let it go.

 
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