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Should my Therapist know

Should I tell my therapist I’m in love with someone else other than the man I married? I’m worried she will dislike me and not be able to help me. I have expressed these feelings to him. I cannot be with him nor can he be with me.
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
Your therapist should have the skills to hear this and be professional about it.
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
@heartless You should be able to tell your therapist all of this. If you can't, find a new therapist.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@heartless you need a new therapist.
Decembersong24 · 36-40, F
@heartless It's totally normal to be attracted to other people. Where you go from there is another story. But you're human. We are all sexual beings. It's unrealistic to think that because we are in monogamous relationships we won't feel attraction for others. I tell my hubby about all the people I think are hot. Okay, most of them are on TV or in movies and wouldn't want to do me for a million bucks but the point is attraction doesn't mean infidelity.
SW-User
Why would she dislike you? There is nothing wrong with having feelings as long as you don't act on them and cheat on your husband.
SW-User
@heartless Having an affair is never worth the risk even if your husband doesn't find out. You need to try to convince your husband that you like him as he is and you find him sexually appealing. Also do things that you know turn him on maybe even experiment with new ideas to get him going. Give your relationship a fair chance there is always a solution. But i still think you should get counselling with your husband if all fails.
heartless · 41-45, F
@SW-User oh i am still sexually attracted to my husband. thank god. i recently ordered a vibrator. i’m trying to keep my mind busy. if we do couples therapy it will cost more and i would not be able to go to the same lady who knows everything. she said she knows too much about him and it wouldn’t b fair to him. i love still missing my husband and hugging plus other stuff. he just doesn’t initiate it and i feel i shouldn’t have to all the time.
SW-User
@heartless I guess the only solution would be for you talk to have a heart to heart conversation with him tell him how his behaviour is affecting you. Maybe you would both reach some kind of solution he may also benefit from daily excercise as he said you could both go for a jog every day hopefully it would help improve the intimacy issues.
Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F
Yes. She's supposed to be a professional. Nonjudgmental and there to help you process these feelings.
Your therapist shouldn't judge you whatsoever. That isn't their job. They are supposed to help you through whatever comes up in your life. Bad or good. I'm a straight girl and had a big crush on a therapist for a long time. That was a big problem because I didn't want to tell him things because I didn't want him to think I was slutty or think of me in any way but in the best possible light. That effected my ability to be helped.

 
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